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Saw this today and loved it; this is by far and away the best lesson I have learned during my al-anon journey.
Today was a nice day. I had no-where to be, and A came over to ask if I would help him fix his resume and write cover letters for some job applications. I didn't mention the drunken conversation a few nights ago where he told me he was coming to live with me etc as it was very clear it had just been drunken babbling and, really, being told he wants to live with me again soon isn't the most offensive thing I've ever been told by him, even if it isn't what we have discussed and agreed upon when mutually sober.
We got the work done and spent the afternoon and evening driving around, sitting by the bay while the dog chased seagulls, and chatting about happy nothings. It was really nice. He must have thanked me 5 times for helping him sort out his messy employment history, references etc but the truth was, whereas a year ago I would automatically bark 'I am NOT YOUR SECRETARY" whenever he asked me to do such a thing, in reality over the last year he has done a great deal to help me out and asked nothing from me so it was actually nice to do something to help him for a change. Wow, I never thought I would say that!
I drove him to the train station, we sat on the platform giggling like children while a grumpy old man gave us disapproving looks, lol. It's been a while since things just felt easy and fun and there was no sense of impending trouble or nagging resentment or fear of unmet expectations. It was just TODAY, and it was lovely. I'm grateful for it and for all of the lessons and challenges that have led me to it. Mostly I love that i have learned to insist upon maintaining a peaceful and serene environment about myself and the freedom from resentment that has come with it.
I don't do things that I really don't want to do for people and I don't endure behaviour that I really don't want to endure, and as a result, I am not drowning in resentment and I get to enjoy the wonderful qualities of people rather than hating the negative and that's a magical marvelous thing.
So yay for today, and living in it as the best and happiest me that I can be.
And thanks for reading.
(((everyone)))
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If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see? (Lewis Caroll)
Beautiful share Ms. M You have a great deal of wisdom, serenity and courage to share and I appreciate the gift.
My favorite reminder of living in today is from an old poem" Yesterday is but a dream, and tomorrow only a vision, but today well lived makes every yesterday a dream of happiness and every tomorrow a vision of hope -- look well to this day.
Sounds as if you did just that. Good work my friend
Hey, hey MissMel - what a great share.....so very powerful about the moment, living in it vs. the past or the future and how you could be of service in the present in spite of any/every thing else that has transpired!!! Lovely proof of the power of the program - I like your 'Today' reminder as well. I love both yours and the one Betty shares above me!
Keep doing what you are doing - you are wearing it so, so well!
(((Hugs))) - still hoping for fast healing for your boo-boo!!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Thanks friends That poem is another lovely way of looking at living in the now, I'll remember it thanks Betty.
IAH, perhaps people have been praying for me because in the past few days my foot has made some surprisingly swift improvements and although I shouldn't overdo it I can actually walk almost normally on it at last and have dispensed with the crutches which is a great feeling. I don't do laid up well, lol!
Thanks for the encouragement and well wishes
-- Edited by Iamhere on Sunday 31st of January 2021 01:20:04 PM
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If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see? (Lewis Caroll)
Hey girl - I believe in the power of prayer - I am doing some cartwheels here for you in joy of the healing!!!
PS - do not do the cart-wheels....I gotcha covered AND it may affect your healing negatively....
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
lol, that got a giggle out of me
I have never successfully performed a cartwheel in my life so, no, I won't try one now, I promise
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If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see? (Lewis Caroll)
Glad you giggled - glad you are not doing cartwheels!!!
I did gymnastics when I was young for a long while. The funny thing for me about aging - I can still do a cartwheel and other things, but good lord - I get dizzy fast! I think my balance and depth perceptions/equilibrium are all aging faster than the rest of me.
(((Hugs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
