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A new step every two weeks in the order they were written!Al-Anon's 12 Steps & 12 Traditions
Al-Anon's 12 Steps & 12 Traditions
At the suggestion of my sponsor, I am revisiting Step 1 and making a list of things I am powerless over. Feel free to add to this list or comment as you see fit - hopefully someone besides me will get something out of this.At a high level, my powerlessness can be summed up to encompass a few rather large areas that can directly affect me and my state of mind. These are listed in no particular order of importance:
1. Other people's behavior2. Other people's choices3. Other people's feelings4. Other people's beliefs5. The weather (ok, that's an easy, obvious one)6. The economy (see item 2)7. Alcohol (see items 1 and 2)8. What other people say to me and how they say it (see item 1)9. Other people's reactions to my behavior (see items 1 and 3)10. The past - I can't change it11. The future - I can't predict itTo be more specific, I am powerless over anything my AH does - whether it's from drinking 24/7 to interrogating me about a Bunco party to overcooking the food on the the grill to making the choice to drive to the hamburger joint with our young son in the car after having been drinking all day. This seems to be such a short, deceptively simple list. Who knew it could be so difficult to keep all of this in mind from day to day, hour to hour, minute to minute?Did I miss anything big here?Thanks for listening,bgUpdate: Just FYI - I will not be putting my son in the position of having to get in the car with his dad if he's been drinking going forward. I made the mistake of trusting my AH when he said he would cook at home, which he ended up not doing. I won't be doing that again.