Everything I have ever let go of has claw marks all over it.
I came- I came to-I came to be
The searching and fearless moral inventory that an Alcoholic takes is foundedin the consequences of being alcoholic. What I did to myself and others thathurt myself and others as a result of my alcoholism. Al-Anon doesn't havethe "under the influence of" safety net. Yes we were under the influence ofthe disease and...we didn't have the personal defects from the chemical. The steps are the same. Al-Anon's 12 steps were adapted from AA and AA's12 steps were founded from another religious fellowship the Oxford Movement.I would suggest that you get the help from an experienced Al-Anon memberto also help you thru your forth step. I am a double...entering and staying inAl-Anon and 9 years into Al-Anon as a result of a chemical dependency assessment getting into AA to hedge against relapse. Not so unusual. I havedone all 6 of my 4th steps in Al-Anon and took full responsibility over thediscovery and amends process. Many of my character defects were seeded,sprouted and harvest before my personal involvement with alcohol or an alcoholic. Each 4th steps was deeper than the one before it and I am gladfor the mentoring I received from sponsors and others in recovery. Al-Anon also has their "Big Book" and their 12 X 12 and more. Go to theCAL (Conference Approved Literature) while you are on this journey to avoid confusion. Just a suggestion.Stay with your progress. The program works as your work it. (((((hugs)))))