The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
Recently at my regular in person meeting the reading from Courage to Change, December 16th, was read;
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DECEMBER 16
I was convinced that I had to take care of everything and everybodyI had no choice. But with the help of Al-Anon I have learned that, while I do have responsibilities, there are also many things I do not have to do:
I dont have to understand everything. Some things are not my business, and others will simply never make sense to me.
I dont have to be reluctant to show my feelings. When Im happy, I can give in to it! When Im not, I can turn to my Al-Anon friends who help me to grow through the tough times.
I dont have to feel threatened by the future. I can take life one day at a time.
I dont have to feel guilty about the past. With the help of the Steps, especially Eight and Nine, I can make amends and learn from the mistakes I have made.
I dont have to feel alone. I can go to a meeting, or pick up the phonethere is always somebody to reach out to in Al-Anon.
I dont have to take responsibility for other peoples choices. They have their own Higher Power to help them make their decisions.
I dont have to give up on my hopes and dreamsmy Higher Power is not limited by my lack of imagination.
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I find this a wonderful reading, there's so much to take from it. From the message of 'mind my own business' - self help and healing, to taking One Day At A Time.
To make amends and take a moral inventory to the most powerful message , I don't have to give up on my hopes and dreams
I am worthy of respect not being treated in a disrespectful manner.
What a wonderful share! Its most of alanon wrapped up on one page. Love C2C. Some of the highlights:
-I dont have to have all the answers
-I have feelings and can let them be seen and heard
-ODAT, one of my favorite slogans
-Not responsible for others
It took several years of alanon for it to really sink in, that I am worthy of love and respect. I have learned to love and respect myself. I always repeat this phrase: I have resigned from the Doormat Club. Although I was a member for most of my life, Id say about 10 or more years ago I heard this on this board. Its never left my head since. No one gets to wipe their feet on me anymore!!!!
