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Post Info TOPIC: 8/9/22 ODAT – Anger: Change our Focus, Change the Outcome

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8/9/22 ODAT – Anger: Change our Focus, Change the Outcome

Today's page reminds us that it is our point of focus that determines our level of anger and the negative impact to ourselves and others. 

Though unnecessary, it is often easier to fixate on the perceived wrong until our anger spills over and our attempts to punish the 'wrongdoer' consumes our thoughts and engulfs innocent bystanders, including children in the home.

Reminder: Reducing harm to ourselves and others are solid reasons to avoid cultivating and maintaining resentments.

"If any man among you seem to be religious and bridleth not his tongue, he deceiveth his own heart; this mans'religion is vain." Epistle of James
Alanon champions this powerful concept of choice in how we react to events that befall us. I cannot control what is said or done around or to me, but I am in complete control to how I respond; this I can change.

I still find myself wanting to act and speak relative to how I feel I have been treated. Yet when I do this, I am subject to the strength or weakness of others in that moment. This page reminds me of my responsibility to form and hold my own standards by relying upon my higher power.

For me, the goal is not to be religious, but to find Serenity. When I rely on the guidance of ALanon and help of my higher power, I can choose healthier standards regardless of those around me...grateful for the reminders of the program




"...when we try to control others, we lose the ability to manage our own lives."  - Paths to Recovery 

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Thanks Paul for your service and ESH. If I let negative emotions stew inside me, I can conjure up a witches brew that is harmful to me and my loved ones. Learning that I have a choice about what I think about, and as a result, how I feel and behave, has been a life changer for me. Although this concept of "choice" seemed foreign to me, it's a Godsend, or HPsend.



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Thank you so much Paul for your service and bringing today's reading to MIP for me.

Thank you to you Paul and to you Lyne for both your shared ESH.

I so agree that when I harbor resentment I literally am uncomfortable and anxious.

I so rather enjoy the feelings of serenity to the feelings of resentment. When my

resentments are not on auto pilot, it is such a great way to feel in control of my life!!!

Grateful Al-Anon member!


"Forgiveness doesn't excuse bad behavior, but it

does prevent bad behavior from destroying your heart". ~ unknown


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Good evening everyone.

Thanks for the shares, I find them so helpful and food for thought.

Have a good night


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Thanks paul for the reading and to all the sharers on the topic of anger. The Serenity Prayer continues to be a very helpful tool for me for what is and isn't within my control. It's a helpful reminder to not give my power away to people, places and things. I'm grateful for free will, choices. I can continue to care for myself by responding rather than reacting to life. I can continue to communicate my anger, hurt feelings, fear etc to a loving higher power. I can choose g.o.d. good orderly direction putting First Things First into action as I do what I need to do each day to live fully. Refocusing and self care helps me to change feelings of negativity to more positive ones. It's a process but a way to work through anger, confront it rationally and even take the sting out of it. Decisions are best made when calmer. When my emotions are in balance, I consider the event and any action or change. I can consider why I feel affected. I can consider others involved from a place of balanced emotions.


Surround yourself with people and elements that support your destiny, not just your history.

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