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Post Info TOPIC: Courage to Change 9/13/18


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Courage to Change 9/13/18


Today's reading discusses making the most of this day, this 24 hours ahead of us.  We are reminded that each moment of this day is precious and we can make it count.  We can enrich our lives and improve our relationship with our HP, others and self.  The steps help us pursue this goal, no matter what our circumstances are.

We are offered meetings, Al-Anon phone calls and literature that help us apply the steps to what is happening in the here and now.  For this moment, we can make positive changes.

The reading asks us to consider thinking of time as a special kind of checking account.  We have 24 hours to spend.  Using the program principles to work for today, we can choose to use these hours to grow, enjoy and improve.  We can also keep learning from our mistakes as we can start a brand new 24 hours at any moment.

Reminder --  "This day offers me a chance to make a new start at living.  How can I make the best of it?"

Quote from Jean Toomer --  "We start with gifts.  Merit comes from what we make of them."

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This reading for me drives home the idea of one day at a time.  It offers us simple suggestions for what we can during this day to work our program, and grow spiritually.  I came to recovery focused on anything but the present.  I was stuck in the past full of shame and blame or I was projecting gloom and doom into the future.  My survival skills needed a lot of work!

Today, I stay present as best I can and make time for program actions each day.  I change actions up when I feel 'stale' in my efforts and I work to grow spiritually for all waking moments.  I use each step as I need to and live instead of survive.  Heck, maybe even thrive for many hours of each 24.

I am grateful for the program, those who came before me and a lovely sponsor who showed me the way.  I am grateful for the bottom that brought me here and for the willingness to grow, learn, change.  

Happy Thursday all - make it a great day!



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Good Mprning IAH--- Love this reminder One day at a time if i focus on myself , I can make my life great. i can bring in educational entertaining, enriching subjects and grow or i can wallow in self pity and small thinking.
Love the quote about our gifts and merit. Have a lovely day

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Good morning, MIP!

I love this reminder - a new 24 hours can start at any moment. There are often days when I tell myself this, an then tart again fresh.

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If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. - Lao Tzu



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Thanks IAH and others 'ESH. What a positive and inspiring reading and shares. It is great to learn that I can re-set my day anytime I want to! It can even be in the afternoon if the morning was lousy. I have asked myself many times since program, will I let that ruin my entire day? And the answer is heck NO! I have choices and thank God I have learned to use them, Lyne

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Thank you Iamhere for your service. What a great C2C!!!

I used this tool yesterday... as the morning was challenging and felt beyond my scope... but I told myself to "reset" in the afternoon, and I survived! LOL!! Looking back with relaxed eyes, I actually handled the morning pretty darn well!! Funny what a little perspective will do!

Yes, Lyne!! THIS - "Will I let that ruin my entire, day? HECK NO!" LOVE THIS!

I used to allow these things to rule my entire day. Not anymore. Thank you, Al-Anon!

Peace

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One day at a time. And making the most of the day in front of me that is right now

I got up on Wednesday and it seemed that if something could go wrong, it went wrong. Stupid nickel dime aggravations that Seem to just pile up on one another. Like a slow faucet dripping one drip at a time on my head.but this time I just kept redoing my day. And I even said out loud to the shadowy figures inside of me or outside of me that they were not going to screw up my day

I said out loud that I am the captain of my ship and I will change course as often as I have to to make a good day out of this day. I had to work and do a complicated tax return for a subchapter S corporation with lots of closing entries on the books before I could even do the return. Because I had a positive attitude about myself and my talents on my ability to pay attention to detail and, one good thing about OCD, is that I checked and double checked my work before I gave to boss to send it out.

He examined the return and told me I did a beautiful job. A day that Started out with aggravating, nitpicking stupid things, ended up in a positive note because I just refused to have a bad day

When I do life one day at a time, or sometimes, one hour at a time, I can get a grip on myself and come up with positive energy and I can reverse the negative. It takes practice and patience and believe in myself and my higher self within me and lots of working the program but I know I can do it



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Thank you IAH and all who shared. "One day at a time" is my very favorite slogan and has protected my sanity many times.

Rose, I like how you refused to have a bad day. I think we need another slogan: "I refuse to have a bad day." It would look very nice needlepointed on a cushion.

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Hey Freetime..Love your posts and yea, I don't know how to do needlepoint, but that is a gr8 idea.....and yep...."I refuse to have a bad day" and that is basically what I told the negative energies in me or outside of me...
"nope..You are not messing up my day.." and it WORKED, LOL

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Thank you IAH, what a wonderful reminder, very gratefully received here in autumnal Italy. .

"I refuse to have a bad day" - what a gift that is!!! Thank you Freetime and Rose. (((((hugs)))))

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Thanks for your service, IAH, and all the ESH. I love this idea of having a fresh start as needed! I first read about this idea here on MIP, I think it was early into my program, and I tried doing that and it worked! I don't think I'd consciously worked on restarting my day before, feeling somehow that it can't happen unless I sleep on it... Not true, for which I'm grateful.

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