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AH very ill


Hi AH very ill. He pushed me so have restriction order not to live at home.  He's in his tiny workshop. It's unsafe as workshop. Can an alcoholic give up as he says he's trying but too hard??? Is it that he can't or doesn't want to? I've taken him a duvet and pillow. I need a break. Do I feed him? Where's my responsibility and sanity as a wife and his? His family say I'm responsible for taking him to the council to house him. It's making me ill. A 



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((Ling)) You are not alone.   Alcoholism is indeed a dreadful fatal disease and  Many cannot stop and  do pass away as a result.

AA has an outreach committee and I would call the AA hotline and ask for someone from AA to go visit him and provide information regarding recovery As for food etc pray about it and trust HP. 


You and your family are in my prayers.






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Hi (((ling)))

I'm sorry you're going through this. Along with hotrod's suggestion, you might want to reach out to your doctor for guidance. Alcoholism is an illness. It was also remove the burden of making decisions for someone else's life for which you are not prepared. Your husband may be too sick at this point to help himself. Intervention can help and then it will be up to him whether he wants his life back. Wishing both of you the best. TT



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I agree with Betty and tiredtonight...I can't add anymore then what they very wisely said....I would not get into his situation, but would call intervention...and like TT says "it will be up to him whether he wants his life back" I wish you two the best as well

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ling, I am so sorry you are going through this. For your AH, as Betty said, AA has very strong outreach program. Where I live, local AA meetings will send a person, or a couple of people, to go see an alcoholic who is struggling, in trouble, etc. They visit with the alcoholic, provide support, encouragement, and will provide a great deal of information and material regarding meetings, sponsors/sponsorship, recovery, and more.

The bottom line -- if the alcoholic is ready and wants to get better. They will help him do so. However, they won't force him, or even try to convince him to do something he doesn't want to do. What this means...it is up to him.

For you -- now is the time to rely on your program, the tools, the steps, and everything the program has to offer. Go to face to face meetings. Talk to your sponsor, and if you don't have one, now is a great time to get one. Start talking to him/her, work with him/her, etc. When you go to meetings, listen to the experience, the insight, and the wisdom, from others who have faced what you are facing.

All the best.

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Sending healing thoughts your way. Most AA organizations are very willing to do outreach for those still suffering. (((Hugs)))

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