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~*Service Worker*~

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Sad Story ..


When I was at my last job in my little town there was a man my age who was hired around the same time as I was .. I already knew the guy had 3 red flags all alcohol related .. I saw some other behaviors while I was still there and knew that at some point it was going to not well, as in he had a temper when he was not sober.  I had witnessed it with some other situations that were off work as well as at.  One thing that I was SUPER concerned about was the sobriety at work because it was a warehouse situation. 

So it finally happened .. he was out got drunk and proceeded to hurt someone else really badly .. it was a bar situation and now he's in jail waiting arraignment I am waiting to find out exactly how it went down.  Here's the interesting part .. the comments on this story and all of them saying how they never saw him as a bully and I shook my head silently thinking .. you were either just as intoxicated as he was or did not witness the stuff I saw after he had been at work.  They obviously didn't work with him either .. he was just not a nice person. 

I was a little stunned about it all still .. and again I have information I shouldn't .. I do because of what I did .. I wonder if he was fired or if he had been let go for "other reasons" .. I have a feeling this would be the final straw for him at that place .. who knows .. it is a crazy situation to say the least. 

Anyway, it still makes me sad because he was a nice guy when sober .. when intoxicated .. not so much.

Hugs S :)



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 Good topic, Serene... smile ...

My A was much worse in his sober moments, mostly...

but when we are much closer to the person; in the family situation, the flaws are much more evident.

People still swirl around my life- who have serious issues... I no longer take it personally... and i no longer try to fix everything.

I have begun thinking about what I do do... now...

a good worthwhile thing to reflect on... aww ...



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My husband is a really nice guy when sober. Caring, the best father you could imagine...but when drunk, is an absolute monster. I think the closer you get to an alcoholic person the better and sooner you see the signs and pain

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Thanks Serenity for this topic and these are all important shares. My A became very mean once the drinking was heavy. These shares caused me to reflect on my 6th grade teacher who was like a Jekyl and Hyde, and eventually fired. I did not understand what was going on then. And in my early adult hood I worked in an office with a woman who kept a bottle in her pocketbook in a brown paper bag. Her face was often red and swollen. I did not understand this either in my 20's. Life is painful, interesting, and joyful . Thank God for program,Lyne

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Watching the disease with our 'knowledge and tools' is very difficult...I am one who prays for those who struggle and can't get it. I too get sad as the disease progresses - it touches me deeply and I can only believe it's because I now know what it's like to live a life of recovery instead of insane obsession of people, places, things and this disease.

I'm sorry for your sadness Serenity - I do get it. It just reminds me how powerless we are, no matter who we are, what we know or where we've been. (((Hugs)))

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I am hard pressed to believe he's still employed at my previous work based upon what I have been reading and I am pretty positive this outburst is not isolated .. I'm seeing some things that happened after I left. I feel so sorry for him. I do hope he finds the help he desperately needs .. i am grateful my xah wherever he's doing or not doing managed not to do this because he was headed that direction. S :/

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