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Last spring my A ex-husband had a collapse and a long spell in the hospital. It wasn't clear whether he was going to pull through, but thankfully he did. He stopped drinking, and I wasn't sure if he was going to stay sober, because he has stopped drinking dozens, maybe hundreds of times before. But apparently he actually did. Nevertheless he died of cirrhosis/liver failure today. It was completely sudden and unexpected. His roommate came home to find him dead. I am still in shock. After the scare of last spring, I thought things were stable at present.
Our kid is asleep (it is night where we are right now). I absolutely dread having to tell him in the morning. He will be devastated.
And despite the alcoholism, I'll give this to my ex - he was a devoted parent and he did the best he could.
I am just horrified and in shock. I hate, hate, hate this disease. How much grief and horror it has caused in the world.
-- Edited by Mattie on Tuesday 20th of March 2018 12:39:20 AM
My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your child. ((((Mattie))))
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(((Mattie))) healing thoughts and prayers coming to you and your son. Yes it is a dreadful disease and it sounds like your A really tried to be a responsible parent.
((Mattie)) I too am so very sorry to read of your loss. This is indeed a dreadful disease that causes untold pain to many.
Sending healing prayers for you and your family.
I'm so sorry for your loss my heart is breaking for your child. I also had to tell my son that his father had died. It's a feeling that can never be expressed with words.
I will send as many prayers and positive thoughts your way!
So sorry for your loss. Sending prayers and positive thoughts to you, your son and any others who loved your A....Be gentle with you.
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I am so very sorry for your's, and your son's, loss. My best wishes, warmest thoughts, and most sincere condolences go out to you, your family, and your loved ones.
Take whatever comfort you can, knowing exactly what you said -- he was a good parent, and did the best he could. That will hopefully help you both grieve, and mourn, and help you get through that process.
All the best.
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Mattie, I hope you and your son are doing OK, as best as can be expected anyway. Sending you hugs and prayers. I know that words really can't take away the sting or the pain of the reality of this disease and I'm so very sorry for your loss. Please let me know if you need anything or shoot me a PM if you just want to vent or release. Big HUGE HUGS TO YOU!
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