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For about the last 6 months, I have been attending 5 or 6 alanon meetings a week. I go to the meetings, but didn't get a sponsor and rarely share. I just listen. The weather where I live has gotten really icy and snowy, with temperatures well below zero. About a month ago, I started using the weather as an excuse for not going to any meetings at all. I just don't want to go. It's like I'm burned out of meetings. Even when the weather is ok to drive, I just can't force myself to go. I definitely need help. I'm depressed and find fault with everyone and everything around me. Has anyone else experienced this? 



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I call that passive meeting attendance .. I'm glad you went did you find relief? Things got different when I made a choice to get active in my recovery. I got sick and tired of being sick and tired. I don't think sharing is mandatory at meetings however being active in your own program is an absolute requirement. I encourage you to go back .. get a sponsor and yes .. I did hit a point where I thought one more meeting and I'm going to bleed out of my eyeballs. Then I realized better that than going back to where I was at .. it was miserable. You know you can get your misery back free of charge at any point and time .. that's just not where I want to stay.

Do you read the lit? Do you read about the steps? Get a sponsor, that for me was the turning point in my own recovery.

Big hugs,

S :)

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I have gone thru phases where I wrongly believed other things are more important than my recovery. It has not served me well. I also have gone through phases where I've done the minimum of what's suggested. Again, it did not serve me well....

I am not sure why I resisted doing what is suggested - perhaps I was in denial, a rebel or worse. All I know now is I find my most centered self when I stay active in recovery to the best of my ability one day at a time. That does include meetings, talking with other program friends, steps,literature, sponsor, etc. I can start going backwards when I let up.

Don't beat yourself up -- it happens. Do something small today and build from there. We are to focus on progress and not perfection. We all learn how to do recovery for self based on trial/error. If you are concerned about your mental health, there is no shame in reaching out beyond recovery for help either. So sorry that the weather and more got in the way - it does happen.

Sending you positive thoughts and prayers + (((hugs))).



-- Edited by Iamhere on Tuesday 9th of January 2018 04:40:43 PM

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Six meetings a week seems like maybe it was too much? I wish I could make it to one per week but I'm sure I'd fall out if I went as often as you were. If you get a sponsor you may find that to be helpful. 



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I just got back from what you are describing, only it got much worse. It felt like borderline insanity. I went for years without going back......

I'm so glad you are here. I got so scared of letting up. I moved to another state and it's been years..... All I have done since I found this site and fellowship, is dig deep into every available meeting I can make online, got a temporary sponsor, working the steps, the fellowship etc. It has literally saved my life! I'm not saying that lightly....it also is saving my relationships. I turned into someone I did not know.

My first F2F meeting in the state I moved to is a bit over a week away. It's also over an hour away but that is ok today.

Hugs and keep coming back!

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((Buckeye Girl)) I do so understand . I was able to keep up my meetings simply because they were held in hospitals and schools one block from my ofice or home. many days it was a struggle to attend. Once in the doors of the meeting, a major transformation took place within and I always left uplifted and inspired.
One of my negative coping tools that i needed to release, before this did happen was my constant judging and negating others. keeping an open mind helped me to continue attending Good luck

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