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Post Info TOPIC: all hell has broken loose


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all hell has broken loose


omg...all hell has broken loose with alcoholic. After my last post he went balastic on me. I mean balastic. I have called 911 and he has been charged for assault on me and forced confinement. I can not discuss the details. It was so scary, OMG. I was shaking like leaf...I had to run out the door. It was bad. I mean bad. he went complely balsitic. I am dead sober. I have a small mark on me from where he grabbed me from behind as I was leaving for the front door. He had also pinned me in a room. I was ready to crawl out the window, to get away from him. I made a video statement and what happened. The police have in custody now and he is not allowed near me or the house. NO, NO. I had to do this. It was completely unprovoked. He was screaming at me your the devil woman, your the devil woman and get out of my house, get out of my house! Your a lazy bitch..I work and pay for this house, ect...went totally nuts. 

I have charged him as I had enough. I had warned him if he ever touches me I will charge him. And he went balastic on me for no reason as I waS TRYING to leave the house and he followed me all over the house, would not leave me alone. I wrote my last post when I went downstairs to get  away from him. I went upstaris to get my things to leave and he locked me in the bedroom, going nuts on me...I was trying to think, safety, safety, getaway from him, get away from him...and when I was going for the door he grabbed me from behind with both arms and yelling, your not leaving, ect. Thank god my daughter was not in the house...

I am safe now. I had enough and enough is enough. I had enough. I am safe now, I am safe now. I HAD NEVER BEEN SO SCARED, omg...not sure if he would beat me more or what...he is in custody....not sure when he is being released. Police said he is not to have any contact with me or the house. 

I had enough. He was drunk and screaming devils get out of the house, witches get out of the house at 7am, I woke up to him screaming that and just targeted me. 

 

I do not feel sorry for him at all. I have had enough. I am so angry and determined. I am not going to protect his alcoholism anymore. I did not cause it, cure it, control it..He did it, end of story. I am so determined to not be beat for no reason. I have been pushed to the limit and I did not cause him to do this to me. I woke up and he goes nuts on me for no reason, no reason. 

I checked on my daughter today, she is so calm, so calm. I got her medication and she took it and appears much better then yesterday. So grateful, so grateful! 

I have to think, step by step. Right now, its called sleep and rest! I am in a hotel room. I can not go home to shaken. I am doing self care. I am focusing on calming down right now. 

 

I hate, hate alcoholism. I hate it. But I am not going to be beaten for no reason. No reason. 

Thanks for letting me share!           



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Sorry for the chaos/arrest but glad that you are safe. I also love to hear that your daughter is doing better. Stay safe and do what you can to enjoy the silence/calm. (((Hugs)))

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You are doing what is necessary to protect Joker...right on!!  He is being taken care of by others in authority...right on!!  time to rest and thank HP that you are safe.  In support Joker...((((hugs)))) smile



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Glad to hear you are safe.
Stay strong ((((Hugs))))

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(((Joker))), I'm glad you are safe now. So sorry you had been assaulted... Keep coming back.

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(((joker))) great recovery work putting your safety as your number one priority. Im sending prayers your way.

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I'm glad you are safe Joker. There is a lot of chaos for you right now. I hope you can get to a face to face meeting soon. Keep checking in here.

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so sorry this happened..Been there and its UGLY!!! I am also glad you are safe and you did a great job, taking care of you by removing yourself from him....Now its become physical and if he does not enter treatment, chances are good, he will escalate...Mine did and later on in recovery, I was told this by many old timers....when the physical stuff starts, its time to take a hard look at how much do I want to be safe.....I would not just go to face to face meeting, but go to a domestic violence shelter and get some direction on whats the next right thing you need to do to take care of you and NOT be a violence victim again...Next time, it may not end so lucky..You got away this time, but what about the next?? and if he does not surrender to re-hab, it will happen again.....Stay safe...talk to some other alanoners and get advise/direction from the domestic abuse shelter personnel...they can help a lot....they did me.......IN SUPPORT

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