The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
My husband just decided to go to rehab and it's been a long struggle before hand. I'm relieved that he went because it has been a long time struggling to deal with the consequences of his actions and the pain that he's caused our family. because I have two beautiful children that I didn't want to separate and share a life with only part of the time i've see you then passed the point of feeling taken advantage of and neglected and just pathetic. I've put up with so much and continue to as he's in his program while I do everything on my own and support our family and I feel angry because I had complete rejection denial and enabling from his family. How do you deal with all the pain and anger that you feel while they are on the road to recovery?
Welcome You are not alone Alcoholism is a progressive, chronic disease over which we are powerless. Alanon is a recovery program for family and friends of alcoholics. It is in alanon that I found the support i needed to grow and change. Face to face meetings are held in most communities (the hotline number is in the white pages) It is here that I was able ot break the isolation caused by years of living with the disease, receive constructive new tools to live by , have my self esteem and self worth restored while being supported by a group who truly understood the insanity of living in the disease. I urge you to attend and to keep coming back here. There is hope
I can relate very much.to feeling abandoned and put in a double bind when the now ex A went to rehab
I am glad you are here
There are a lot of al anon tools that can help.
Rehab was for me a particularly difficult time.
The expectations of me were way off.
Of course I did not have good enough boundaries to say no or set limits. I did set some limits. I.did voice my resentments I stopped some self defeating behavior
Winning2try - welcome to MIP. So glad you found us and so glad that you shared and joined right in. Congrats. for your AH who's trying rehab/recovery. As pointed out above, Al-Anon is for family and friends affected by the disease in another person. I had horrible anger, resentments and many more emotions that I really did not know how to handle or release in a healthy way. I know that who I was and how I was after living with this disease was not who I wanted to be so gave it a try.
Al-Anon provides me a safe place to share where I am without judgement or advice from others. We share our ESH and use tools to work on a better way to live our lives and work to keep the focus on us and our recovery.
Keep coming back and know you aren't alone. There is hope and help in recovery!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
