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I have been trying to keep myself busy so that I am thinking of the alcoholic and ways to keep myself so busy he does not see me. I have been going to face to face meetings but I find I am still around the house when the alcoholic is around and I really need to get a life of my own so I do not see the alcoholic much. What are some ideas does people have to get out of the alcoholics way, to get a life of my own! Your feedback would be great!
Joker - When I was stuck obsessing about the disease and the diseased, I changed up my schedule as best I could to grocery shop when they were home, take walks, bike-rides, coffee with friends, etc. when they were home. I made sure I had my literature close by and also a few good novels - I can get lost in a good book. I also got earbuds and they were a great gift - I'd put them in and listen to speakers or music on my phone.
Service work, volunteering, softball were also things I scheduled to give me a break from the home/center of insanity. Just some ideas! Of course meetings are always abundant in my area so I could find one each evening if/when desired!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
