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I love not sharing space with a partner. Since leaving, my headspace is clearer. I've been writing and am attempting to make a go of freelancing. The kids have been away for a weekend, which was great, and we're happy.
Its funny how life started working out for both of us once I upped and left. I got stuck into writing, he got promoted. At first, the latter offended me. Lol! We now speak to each other like friends. Mostly, i put this down to, not living together. I cant imagine us ever living together again ever. Even if he became some kind of monk. Its a recipe for misery.
Our kids are passed between us as we can, and last weekend, he was late, because "i had no idea it would take so long to just get out the door". Oh i felt smug. Course, the kicker is, none of this is permanent but then again what in life really is? Taxes.
Lol!
So far, so good, though I'd really like to sell some work and soon.
Take care all.
I can relate to your share. At some point this summer I will be living half time apart from my A. But what I related to was your idea of feeling "free." Alanon has helped me feel free emotionally even while still living together. About two years ago I found a large sticker that says "FREEDOM" and I have it in my home office. It is a tremendous relief to have mostly broken codependency from my A. The time apart should be good as my A has recently started some serious treatment, and I think this gives us both time to figure out what we want. Thanks for writing, Lyne
((a41)) salute to being free! I can relate also, I'm moving an hour away from my AH, the boys and I will be spending our weeks at our new place where a local doctor can work with my son (he has Apraxia and can't speak) and then we will be going home on the weekends. I'm really, really, really looking forward to clearing my headspace and being free lol. Your share gives me the hope I needed for today, thank you, sending loving energy your way :)
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Stress is caused by being 'here' but wanting to be 'there'. Eckhart Tolle
(((A4l))) - great, great share! I remember your post when you and the kids departed - you were a bit unsure yet put your faith in your higher power and just kept doing the next right thing......look at where you are now - Outstanding!!!
I love that you're feeling free and that things are falling into place. Keep on working it girl - it looks great on you!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Was so lovely to wake up and read responses. I almost feel like I fell asleep, got married, five years passed then I woke up and was myself again. Such a funny funny thing. There's always hope in recovery, keep on keeping on everybody!
Really nice to hear you're in such a good space. I think I understand what you are saying about waking up from a long sleep to find yourself. It really is a fantastic feeling of freedom to move from dependency to independent living - no one to answer to but one's hp. Wishing you the best of new discoveries in your happy, joyous and free life. ((hugs)) TT
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I love not sharing space with a partner. Since leaving, my headspace is clearer. I've been writing and am attempting to make a go of freelancing. The kids have been away for a weekend, which was great, and we're happy. Its funny how life started working out for both of us once I upped and left. I got stuck into writing, he got promoted. At first, the latter offended me. Lol! We now speak to each other like friends. Mostly, i put this down to, not living together. I cant imagine us ever living together again ever. Even if he became some kind of monk. Its a recipe for misery. Our kids are passed between us as we can, and last weekend, he was late, because "i had no idea it would take so long to just get out the door". Oh i felt smug. Course, the kicker is, none of this is permanent but then again what in life really is? Taxes. Lol! So far, so good, though I'd really like to sell some work and soon. Take care all.
Amazing! I am so happy you've reached a place of happiness and being healthy. Everyone should know this not only exists, but is very possible and attainable. It is there -- right there -- if you do this work. This is what everyone should strive for. Thank you for being an inspiration to everyone. All the best and keep up the great work.
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God, grant me the serenity...to accept the PEOPLE I cannot change...the courage to change the ONE I can...and the wisdom to know it's ME...
Dear A 41 -I can so relate. I think it took me three years in order to wake up after my marriage and. I believe that my tools of denial and pretend allowed me to live in a different reality and that is why I was able to keep showing up in the marriage. Glad that you are experiencing. The freedom and joy that comes with reality. Thanks for sharing the journey
kudos to you and the appreciation of extra headspace. I moved in with my boyfriend 2 mths ago after over a year enjoying all'me time' in my own place. it takes special effort to keep time for my own space living with him.
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