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Why our program works


Although I've been active in Al-Anon for a couple of years and my life is fairly serene now, I'm amazed that I keep getting new insights. I wanted to share my latest one with this wonderful forum.

 

I was just reading an article about various approaches to treating alcohol use disorder.  The article had this to say about our program.  Where it says "AA" I would include Al-Anon:

 

"AA, like no other approach, offers an understanding and spiritual dimension that encourages forgiveness of self and others."

 

The light-bulb  for me was two words:  understanding and forgiveness.  I think that is it, in a nutshell! It was heartwarming to me to see this written in literature outside of our program.

 

I remember the understanding I felt when attending my first meetings.  When I shared what was going on in my life, the faces in the room said -- without words -- "we know." 

 

I had a lot more trouble with forgiveness.  When I heard others sharing that they had forgiven the alcoholics in their lives I was SHOCKED!  I thought, "How could they forgive???  Those people hurt them, disrespected them, neglected them, made their lives chaotic .. Etc. etc. " I didn't imagine that I would forgive, because at that moment I was just surviving. Eventually, through learning and opening my mind to other possibilities, I came to believe that I could forgive others by releasing them from the debt they could never repay.  And that I could forgive myself for having defects.

 

We have a book How Al-Anon Works (which I love), but to me these two words -- understanding and forgiveness -- explain why it works.



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Love this .. thank you :)

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We know Freetime.   It works when we work it too.   (((hugs))) aww



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Love the share Freetime - thanks for bringing it to us here!!!

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Thanks Freetime. I too had a little difficulty with "Forgiveness" until I realized that to hold on to the pain and anger was only hurting myself and so 'forgiveness made sense all around. Great share.

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"I came to believe that I could forgive others by releasing them from the debt they could never repay. And that I could forgive myself for having defects."




Yes! when more and more I found myself saying, "I am that too," forgiveness just happened, I never really "worked" at it, never really made a decision to forgive, it seemed to happen as "the result" of working the 12 steps.

And then they'd talk about "gratitude" for the whole alcoholic experience.... that was another conçept I never thought I'd live to understand.

Awesome share, thank you.



-- Edited by 2HP on Monday 24th of April 2017 08:48:05 PM

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