AS wife died of alcholism a year ago. For all the world to see he maintained ok until a couple months ago. The first I knew he had fallen very deeply into alcohol, drugs and all that goes with it again was the morning his pickup was repossessed a couple months ago. He called very upset, crying and deeply depressed. That phone call told me that things had not been as "maintained" as I thought they were and it had been going on quite some time. Couple that with the fact that he was unexpectedly let go from his job of five years I knew that he had fallen hard And once again I was the last to know. He is and always has been very good at hiding things, lying or saying only what he wants you to know.He went through $60,000 of life insurance money in That time, walked away from the home he and his Wife had shared for years, lock , stock and barrel. It would have been so very easy for me to let the emotions of losing his wife rule what I did from that time forward and in all honesty it took me a month to get my alanon shoes firmly attached to my feet and let them guide me forward again. He was married for ten years and lived five hours from us so I didn't practice alanon every day as I had since he was 14, he is now 38. So as I am watching as he is making the choice to find his solace in the bottle I am going back to the alanon principles I know so well. When he called to ask if I would lie to the internet company that he is trying to get service with since his other has been disconnected I said, I love you son and I will support you in what I can but I cannot lie to the internet company for you. I will loan you an extra DVD player while you get this figured out. I told him this decision wasn't about him it was about what I had to do to keep my sanity while he figures this out. 

Just needed to come to a safe place that that I used to frequent daily for years and years. Thank you for welcoming me back. 

Doxie