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So what can I do about someone dying and what is that some one is my brother? How much if anything did I do to cause it and was I able to control and cure it? It's a God thing and perfectly acceptable and expected if alcoholism played a part in it. We were not close for many reasons the largest of which was the presence of the disease in our lives. This is a fatal disease and the fatal consequence happened. I would rather be grateful for the good times when and where after they happened including the great times that happened because of practicing our principles in all my affairs.
We got together for several hours months ago and that was our last mutual experience. HP was with us both at the same time and that for me is what mattered. We were together he as he and me as me along with our lovely wives. What more could I ask?
HP use Bob as an instrument in the lessons of unconditional love and Bob leaves others to continue the task. I am grateful for our program and for the peace of mind and happiness it has bought me. Much like this MIP family. (((((hugs)))))
I to am so grateful for this program and the peace of mind it brings me,
I'm so sorry for your loss of a loved one,sending positive thoughts out to you.
Prayers .
Jerry, what you've written here is so beautiful and profound. I admire you. I feel like bowing my head in respect because I know a little bit about the kind of honesty and integrity and strength and surrender you've developed, to be able to write such a thing about the death of your brother.
I am sorry for your loss and glad for him that that phase of his eternal existance is over.
Thank you so much for expressing it in this way and sharing.
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You are young, my son, and, as the years go by, time will change and even reverse many of your present opinions. Refrain therefore awhile from setting yourself up as a judge of the highest matters. Plato
(((Hugs))) to you my brother. Love the honesty of your share and feel grateful that the last gathering was filled with life on life's terms and acceptance. I can not think of a greater gift for you from HP or for him either. May he rest in peace and you do as you are - remember the good times.
Until you meet again!!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
((((Iamhere))))....My entire family was a disaster and I am back home in Hawaii because my sponsor back then suggested that I get away from all things alcohol. God it wasn't a circus ....it was a war. Each of us came out this long way with the help of a power greater than ourselves and all standing on different ground acknowledging the miserable paths we took. There just were not many good times together maybe later...maybe. This is healing and I am not going to interfere with it...just let it happen. Higher Power can always be completely trusted to make it come out in it's will. I thrive on that. Thanks ((((Hugs))))
(((Jerry))) - I hear you......I am so sorry for the pain of the past. For me, it's at times like this where it wants to creep up. You are so correct that Higher Power can always be completely trusted to make it come out in it's will. I'm so glad that's what you are leaning into during your mourning. You continue to be in my thoughts and prayers brother...
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
I had a great inventory meeting last evening with my HP...What was revealed was a deeper understanding of family beyond blood content and dna. At first I was considering the family iw was born with...born into however as I kept looking at it the picture grew and grew and then in short order I came to understand that what was happening was I was looking at the family members I was born with that I didn't choose and those I did which is our programs. My family is very large and so very loving and caring. I met more of them this morning at the meeting and we had a great time coming to know each other. I think I will continue to allow my HP to take over my recovery. (((hugs)))
(((Jerry))) - what you wrote made me think of the simple, yet powerful saying/statement/quote of, "I will grow where I am planted."
I'm continuing to send you positive thoughts and prayers. I can relate to my 'family' being way broader than those I'm attached to in blood. Huge (((Hugs))) brother...
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
IAH ...I am glad that resonated with you as it did with me as I sat with my family this morning and listened and learned more. One of our "relatives" a fellow from the other side of the planet celebrated a milestone and shared his ESH. Each of our siblings have a different view of the journey based upon expectations and experiences and when then share it I (we) win further over our disease. Thanks for sharing always....((((hugs))))
Prayers for continued healing Jerry....I am baffled by the disease and I am baffled by family. When the two overlap, I'm so powerless that my only answer is what the program suggests - trusting God and letting him lead. The disease has been alive and well around me lately in all 3 qualifiers and I'm resisting the pull as best I can. I'm beyond words grateful for my program family, including you and MIP folks.
You, my brother, ground me as does my sponsor. When she and I spoke this morning, we did end up with a chuckle as those outside of the program would think we 'make this stuff up'.....(((Hugs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Thank you for sharing, Jerry. Deepest sympathy on your loss . I lost my brother similarly and it was so hard on me. But, miraculously, I never dwelled on the Aism after that, and only the good times and admiration I had for him came to the fore. Peace, wp
