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It's been a rough semester. I live approx 2 hours from my university and this semester I was meant to do a lot of contact hours. I negotiated with my child, 2 days a week she would go to the school library at 7:30am (when the staff come on duty) so I could get to school late for an 8am class. We had a deal. When it came down to it, she refused. I drove her to school, she sat down in the yard and refused to move to the library. I couldn't leave her there, ergo, no class for me. I almost lost my mind. It went on and on week after week; she just wouldn't move. There is no way in hell I can leave my kid sitting in an empty school-yard at 7:30am and get on a train to the city so, I just didn't go. I drove her there, argued and pleaded, cried, begged, and eventually gave up. I failed everything, even though I did the work. The kid just wouldn't let me go. I was so upset. It wasn't bloody fair.

Anyway it was suggested to me that I plead "special circumstances" with my uni. It was a lot of work, statuatory declarations, medical certificates and letters from a psychologist. Please note, I did the work, I just couldn't attend my assessments. I worked really hard. 

Anyway they just emailed me; they have accepted my application and I am to be allowed to re-sit my exams and they wish me the very best of luck. I have 3 weeks to study and then do the exams the friday before christmas. 

I could cry. Part of me is SO sick of pleading for help and always having a problem and another part of me is just so relieved. Failing this semester would have been over $7000 down the drain plus the waste of time. I don't know how to feel. I don't want to be an eternal special case? Or is it good because they are hard circumstances? 

Life on life's terms I guess. God, I am so sick of pleading for help and being a student. And so grateful for good people and reasonable proceedures. I feel like such a child. I'm 40 for HP's sake. 

Will I still be begging for special consideration when I'm 60? Will I ever have a grown-up career?

Still, it's good news yeah. Yay!

 

 

 

 



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Ms.M I am sorry that you had to endure such trials, however this is ". Great News"
O.D.A.T. trust the process.
Positive thoughts and prayers on the way

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Betty

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I am so glad that universities are recognizing that students come with different life issues that may keep them from performing in the "traditional" way, but with accomodations, they can succeed. Yay for their evlving awareness and Yay for your perseverance.

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