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information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
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Today's reading is about our slogan 'live and let live'. It seems I cannot have enough reminders about staying in my own business and out of everyone else's! The writer describes a childhood w an active A father, but who felt resentment and anger toward mother for her role in it and her denial of the situation. I can say I have spent plenty of energy focused on what I think other people should be doing or saying in their lives- i know now that what that has done is detract me from continuing to grow and recover in my own life.
we have a saying - 'the A is going to drink. what are you going to do'. I think that could apply to lots of situations: '---- is ----. What am I going to do?' It's very easy for me to get caught up in the distractions of other people and their lives. Today I will do my best to keep the focus on myself and what I'm doing.
Thanks for this daily and your service ,Yanksfan.
Great reminder for me ,to live and let live,and mind my own business,stay out of others lives,I find its lots more serene for me to stay in my own hulahoop.............just what I needed to hear .....lu
Great reminder!!! Thanks Mary. Learning how to keep the focus on myself and to "respond" and not react to situations has been a powerful tool in my recovery tool box. Discovering that when I "reacted" i was giving my power away helped me to be determined to learn to pause, think and act instead of blurting out inappropriate answers.
This is a fantastic program and learning how to keep the focus on myself was the key. Thanks for your service.
Mary, thank you for sharing the reading and your ESH. Acceptance as a way of living...something I did not understand, could not even comprehend, for much of my life before I found AlAnon. My insistent belief that I knew how things 'should' be and compulsion to force that on others caused so much unnecessary pain for everyone.
The daily pages help keep me focused on making my choices, for me, and leave others to theirs. When I do this, my mind is filled with so much more peace and serenity. My simmering anger, always close to the surface as I stewed over the perceived missteps of others, makes far fewer appearances when I practice acceptance and Live and Let Live. Very grateful
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Paul
"...when we try to control others, we lose the ability to manage our own lives." - Paths to Recovery
Good morning all! Thank you Mary for the daily, your service and ESH. Thanks to others who also share their ESH above me. I also can use constant reminders to Live and Let Live. I so align my thoughts this morning with Paul - how it was and how the daily pages help keep me focused on my side of the street.
Learning to respond instead of react seems like a continual learning step in my recovery. I am grateful for all of our tools and know that when I pause long enough to consider the situation, the small voice within (HP) and our tools, I can do better each time and respond with a bit more grace and dignity. I tend to do more reacting when I don't do this.
I'm also very grateful - for my program, for my group, for MIP and all who are on this journey. Happy Tuesday to one and all!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
I am grateful to have read this today.For one thing,it made me realize I thought today was the 28th and didn't read this in my book today,and for another thing,it was exactly what I needed to read in this moment.
