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One of the first,most often used slogans I learned from Alanon is "First Things First" Nearly every morning when i wake up, before all the dozens of thoughts come to my head, i say First Things First. It slows me done. I do the most important Firsts First. Taking care of me[shower,meds,breakfast] before anything. Then can calmly review my other things i want to d/need to do. with a clearer head.I use this saying also when overwhelmed by choices.
I'll think of this tomorrow morning, before the thoughts crowd in. Thank you. I like "First Things First" and often use it alongside asking my self what my "Next Right Step" might be.
Thanks for sharing this! I have been trying to put it into practice, and (when I remember to use it) it works extremely well for me!
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Skorpi
If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. - Lao Tzu
Great share and great reminder Alyce - thank you for posting!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
I need as many reminders as I can get about how I need to take care of myself FIRST! I need to LOVE myself before I can love anyone else, otherwise I'm just care-taking.
Somewhere in the "do for others" messages that I got in my childhood, I missed the message that my own needs were important and needed to be tended to. I'm still learning that my feelings are as valid as anyone else's and I don't have to be hopping around making sure everyone else's feelings were taken care of before I had a clue what my feelings were. I automatically felt that if someone was upset, it was my fault.
I'm learning ... thank you all for sharing your ESH.
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"put yourself in the place where grace can flow to you." - robert lax
