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I am the father of an alcoholic adult daughter. I am a new attendee to an Al-non family group. My A adult daughter's mom also attending same Al-anon meetings.
i am uncomfortable with this. Am I being a jerk? Is this common? Is there a position/policy of Al-anon regarding this.
My discomfort stems from feeling inhibited in some things I consider sharing. I have not shared our relation with the group members; and do not believe her mom as either.
Her mon was not at my first meeting but has been present for the last three meetings;I was much more comfortable at the first meeting. Should I seek another group?
I can understand . My daughter came to my meeting and it was suggested we don't attend the same meeting as it could effect both our recovery. We want to feel free to say what we need to. Glad your in the fellowship.
Welcome to MIP Ed - glad you found us and glad you jumped right in. I would certainly encourage you to seek another meeting if you are uncomfortable. Recovery is a personal journey and anything that inhibits your ability to be open and honest will affect your recovery.
My hope is you are in a large enough metro area to find other meetings! Best to you, your daughter and her mother - the disease is powerful and for me, I found recovery, understanding, fellowship and much more in Al-Anon.
I agree with David - comfort levels may change over time - do what you need to do for you - just for today and let more be revealed as it will be!
Keep coming back!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
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