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I've just had a very heavy load taken off my back concerning a brother ,as some of you here may remember me posting about him ,my brother being missing in Texas ,Dallas .for several months ,we all had given him up for dead or some of my foo had said I was beginning to beleive it myself as painful as it was to admit he was living in tent city ,not good at all,he is a bad addict of everything,he had and was my best brother younger brother,I know I can't change him or cure him or control him as much as I wished I could wave a magic wand over him make him all better .his wife and children turned their backs on him and my ppl to,his own daughter paid for his bus ticket one way to Texas ,just got off phone with my dad he is 83 yrs old and can't help him nor can I ,my dad gave me my brothers ph no which is the hospital no in Dallas I asked him for a ph no to call him,my brother has infection in his hand,must be severe infection to be in hospital and heart trouble which all has landed him in hospital ,I've heard nothing good about tent city in Dallas Texas except it's very unsanitary and lots die there from drugging its tents for the homeless,sad.im thinking or I know I'll call my brother to let him know that I love him ,I know he will most likely tell me he is dieing ,sad.and may ask me to come stay with me ,Im scared there reason makes it so hard to call him,there's my weakness if he is really dieing,I don't want him out there.......im tearing up as I'm typing this had to get this off my chest,trying to get some clarity with this,I am happy he finally called and is still alive thus far,I want so bad to see him..........hugs to all...thanks for letting me share my story,this is a very emotional moment for me,,,I'll keep y'all up on my updates on him I'm calling the nurse now out there.before i get my strength up to handle talking to him,it can't be good ,I haven't talked to him in 6 yrs,all the bad he had done in my home,stealing,drugging,etc.i had to cut him loose.he went to a homeless shelter then ,which was lots better than where he is now,I'm sure he has burned bridges with shelters and tents is all that's left for him.....hugs lu



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Maybe it's best for me to just pray about it and for brother and then let it go,give him and sit.over to my hp and trusting the process,allowing life to unfold how it should in its timely matter,not holding up gods work,cause God is in control and very aware of my brothers situation,only God can truely fix my brother and maybe just where God wants him now is in the hospital and away from the filth of his living conditions,I dunno,but I do know that I have to keep focusing on myself and not get myself enmeshed into my brothers sit.this is a challenge again to do not knowing weather he is really dieing or not,my dad wasn't very happy on ph.but seemed excited that I asked for brothers ph,no,he rushed to get it for me.hopeing I'll take his burden of a addict son off his shoulders and bring him here,I couldn't ,and can't,and I hope I don't fall even weaker to it,this is why I'm posting also here,I'm gonna have to get my tools out and check them very carefully.

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((LU)) I do believe that in reading your second posting I heard the echo of the " still small voice within"
I am happy that your brother is alive and you know where he is. Alanon has taught me that the best help that I can give another is to pray for them. If you want you can send a get well fruit basket to the hospital.

Positive thoughts and prayers on the way.

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Ty Betty and that was a great idea ,a fruit basket,just got off the phone with Dallas Texas hospital ,and he had been released ,he went in last week and been released,I tried calling for any info about his wear abouts and his present health condition,they put me to medical records I left my ph,no and short message for them to call me if they should.so I don't know now it's all in the air,just hope he finds his recovery from this dibillitating desease .........needing prayers for me and brother and that I do find him before its to late to tell him I love him and do miss him dearly.....hugs lu

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Prayers and positive thoughts on the way - where there is breathe, there is hope!

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Thank you Iamhere and Betty for your words of comfort,it does hurt when it's loved ones out there in that sit.and there's nothing one can do for them,I just keep him in my prayers .and thanks for your positive thoughts ,so very helpful in sit,as this.its in hp hands it's his will not mine or nobody else's,so God is in control and he is very aware of my brothers sit.and my sit concerning him.....hugs lu

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Nice to hear your news, looking up... it has always inspired me that these MIP forums had their genesis in Dallas. The miracle in Miracles in Progress happened there.

     I too have brother who lives near Dallas. He refuses to communicate with family. He is a part of the deep illness my family suffers from. It is heartbreaking at times. So my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family... ...we are not in this alone, thank goodness.

 aww... -D.



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Thank you David for your sharing your grief ,I. Sorry for your loss as well,I've been researching tent city in Dallas ,lots of info about it,not all good but gave me a little peace that there is good ppl that live in these places also,10,000 homeless living on in tents or wherever ,so sad for the ones that are there because of alcoholism ,mental illness, etc.they really need the help,my brother being sadly in that group of ppl.not a lot of hope there,I'm myself had been trying to reach my brother,don't know what there is I could do for him? So I pray for him day and night,that he will get the help he so needs and is able to rise above all that,I had 2 calls to my phone with no answer or number just wondering if it was him trying To get in touch with me.thats great that mip started in Dallas I didn't know that.and that's great to know.....

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