The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I wonder sometimes does alcohol just make the brain not process information, like the pathway to rationality is diverted or something?
Yesterday there was an engagement party for my son and his fiance (given by the bride to be's family, so our two families and the wedding party could meet). My 36 AD was invited a month ago. She vacillated between telling she wasn't coming-when she was in a foul A mood-but about a week ago she said she was excited about coming and wanted to bring a friend. Her brother let her know of course she was welcome to bring a friend and he was looking forward to seeing her (they both live in other states from where I live).
I didn't dwell on what she said, but truthfully I never expected her to make it as she typically doesn't follow through with promises to come to family get togethers.
I was somewhat surprised when I got a text from her 4 hrs before the party, saying she wanted to come to our house and ride over to the party in our car. I texted back "sure".
It got to be 15 min before time to leave and she wasn't at our house. We called a few times, no answer, then left her a voice mail and text saying we were leaving for the party. Just as we arrived at the party, my husband called her to see if she was on her way (to tell her just to meet us there). She said she was still at her apartment. She rambled a bit, but we just told her we needed to go into the party and ended the conversation. She (of course) never showed up.
After the party, I talked to her and her "explanation" was so incoherently irrationally unbelievable, that even after all we have heard from her, I am dumbfounded. She said she didn't come because her brother texted her yesterday and said the party was in Las Vegas (no one lives in LV) so she didn't come. Then a few sentences later she said that I told her the party was going to be July 4. I didn't make any recriminations, never said anyone was disappointed etc, just said OK, talk to you later. (She left voice mails and long texts on my phone through the night, but I turn my phones to silent)
This is all so bizarre that it is difficult to even process what is going on. I have never heard of anyone making less sense. It is very difficult to talk to her. It makes me wonder if she has some combination of delusions and dementia caused from excessive alcohol consumption. Or do prescription drugs (anti anxiety type) make the brain not work properly? Or?
There is a great book out there I forget the name of the book that talks about the function of the brain and what happens over time. It talks about wet brain, the long term effects and so on.
I wish I could remember the same of the book I know I have seen the title around here it's not an alanon book however it does provide a lot of medical information about how the alcohol breaks down a person physically and mentally. Great reference material.
Hugs,
S :)
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