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Trying something new


At my f2f meeting on the 7th tradition, we had a really nice discussion of what it means to be self supporting. Someone shared about deciding to volunteer for an event and just doing it without anyone els's approval or hoping for someone to come along - self supporting our own desires and interests.

I realized I constantly seek approval and validation from others and have a really hard time just doing what I want to do without feeling judged by others who choose not to do those things or disappointed because my companion didn't follow through or is'nt able to participate. (This of course is mostly in my mind, but also in the sarcasm and judgement of my qualifiers- I became so used to the abusive put-downs they no longer need to say anything)

 

So, I downloaded a fitness app - I have never worked out really or tried running but I am signing up for a halloween themed 5k and doing a three day a week training program  starting tomorrow -- because it sounds fun. 

 

We'll see how "fun" all the training actually is. Lol 

I'm just glad I chose something for myself.

 



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Woo-hoo - way to go! This sounds like a great idea and I am encouraging your efforts from my part of the world. Walking, running and other physical activities truly help me through so many days and I am grateful I am able to be active. Let us know how it's going and know that I applaud you!

Self-care is such a big part of the program, and often so hard for us based on old tapes. Changing the tapes and creating new experiences has been a joy in my program! (((Hugs)))

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Sounds as if that was a powerful meeting. I love the traditions as I find that they do provide great insight into living life and taking care of myself.

Good job my friend .

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Hi~I lived most of my life as a codependent i.e. Please everyone else and don't have a self. Since joining Alanon I have joined the club of Recovering Doormats. And I'm proud of it! You starting your exercise is a wonderful step for yourself. I'm doing something bold too. I'm still married to my A but I am buying a town house about an hour away and in the spring I will be moving there at least half the week to start. This is causing much stress in my marriage, and my A does not agree with this step. In the past I would have crumbled. Not now. I have gotten so much stronger with Alanon in my daily life. I don't mean to cause my A pain but I am going through with my plan. I will do my best to be compassionate but I am definately moving, with HP's help. This feels scary and EXCITING! You go girl, Lyne

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Oooh, I love this - well done on the new steps to take care of yourself. I have a lovely image in my mind of your beautiful dandelion seeds glittering in the sunlight with the wind behind them.

My bold move this year was to apply to do a postgraduate course at a good university - I am 56 years old, started working when I was 17 so had to hope that experience would count in place of a degree. Plus I have left it rather late! Two weeks ago I heard that I had been accepted - Yay!! so in November I will re-start my schooling and shall be away from home, back in the UK, throughout term time!!

So like you Lyne, I am a little scared but also excited! (I love the idea of you buying a town house )

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I caught myself slipping and not caring for myself. I had stopped working out. I was aghast I gained like 30 pounds in less than a year and a half. I declared "no more!" as I have done before in life (with booze, codependent relationships, diet). 27 pounds are gone in about 2 and a half months. I have been working out every day and I forgot what a carb is. Unfortunately and fortunately in some ways - I am a generic addict. I know I am too intense about this. I have to say - fitness feels better than food. I will probably relapse here and lose steam, but this is a better obsession than booze, food, and crappy relationships. I can afford to gain a few pounds. I cannot afford to relapse on booze or to have enmeshed/toxic relationships with alcoholics/addicts. 


Running has taken over the elliptical now. I ran 5k today. Feels good at 44 to be in better shape than I was 10 years ago. Hope the fitness bug catches you.



-- Edited by pinkchip on Sunday 24th of July 2016 05:24:18 PM

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I feel like a slow poke and a slug, i know
I need to lose weight, stop emotional eating
and take better care of myself. Its effecting
My health, my reflux is acting up badly especially
Since the seperation and divorce.

Its my old bad Behaviors, poor coping skills. I know
What i need to do. I just need the Incentive Before i
got married i was working Out all the time, size 5 and
very active.

The less fit the less games, swimming and other fun
Stuff you do, you start to miss out on a lot because you
are out Of shape and dont look good in certain types
Of clothing.

Great shares everyone maybe it will motivate me

Hugs

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I have always been slight - I was a late bloomer and was always small.....my brothers and I were never on any growth charts as kids, so we were all small. My dad's mother (my grandmother) weighed to same pretty much her whole life - slim, attractive and always ate desert with both lunch and dinner!!! My mom's mother (also grandmother) - not so - she had up/down weight her whole life as did my mom and her sisters. They have to work to keep weight off...

Until about 45, I had no issues - could eat what I wanted and stayed small. I am not as toned as I'd like to be, but have always had good stamina and play sports, so I am active. I quit smoking and all heck broke loose - my metabolism seemed to stall out completely and I put on about 15 lbs. I've lost that and gained it back several times in the last 8 years - my gene pool has caught up with me.

I've worked to eat healthier but love carbs....maybe too much! I run (jog really) 5 miles each morning and then try to do something else each day. I started out walking at first and then realized I can jog now that I am not smoking! So - as I tell people who want to start a change but don't know where to start, just do something each day for your health......any effort is better than no effort. If I have a bad food day, I no longer beat myself up - just try to do better the next day! I do have a fitbit, and I think it incents me to keep moving. I do not trust the calories burned though.....I think it might be inflated!

Great thread and love to hear from others who want/need to be healthier!!!

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Update - I fully committed and paid my registration fee for the race and followed my training plan. I can already feel the difference in my stamina

For me, this is not about my size or weight but a chance to have some fun and challenge myself while getting rid of some old ideas and beliefs about my body and what it can or can't do, or can or can't be seen doing/wearing.

I remember being told I was fat (and being ridiculed for it), that I was not an athlete or could not participate in certain sports, and that my appearance was not correct or pleasing in whatever way -- but the problem was I believed these lies about me. I thought these things must be true because my family, and other people all seemed to agree that my body was inferior.

I'm getting over this stuff little by little. I am trying to be a parent to myself, cultivating a healthy body image and finding joy.in what I am capable of- and I cannot wait to run my race in full costume



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Good Job Dandelion Positive thoughts on the way.

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Hey Tara - congrats. on your sign-up and on your plan! You just go girl and I love that it's all for you and your own body image!!! We're supporting you 100%!!

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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging.  Pause before assuming.  Pause before accusing.  Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret.  ~~~~  Lori Deschene

 

 

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