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So last night my husband came home angrier than ever. He would speak to noone and left after taking a shower. While he was gone a friend of ours stopped by and shared a secret he has been keeping since June. My husband cheated on me during a school trip with my son. I was instantly hurt and mad. I knew the mom and was determined that her husband should know the truth too. As i was getting myself together to go to her house and tell her and her husband all I had found out my AH came home. I am proud of myself because magically i didnt lose my cool and while he knew i was very angry we discussed what happened and our marriage. I am not sure at this point where things will go between us at this point. I am not prepared to be a single parent right now and deep down I love my husband. I suggested we give it six months to see if we can correct the issues in our marriage, mostly his drinking and my co-dependency, and if not then we go our separate ways. He admitted his anger is due to feeling he got an ultimatum to stop drinking or lose his family. I told him I cant control his drinking and its up to him whether he does or not. I dont care if he drinks if it would be just occasionally, socially. He drank last night and was very sick this morning. Surprisingly I feel an inner peace and whatever happens happens.
Sounds like you are in the best possible place, in the midst of a terrible situation. Feeling serene in the midst of chaos and uncertainty tells me you are in touch with your HP. Prayers to you.
(((GBTM))) I am so impressed at your ability to respond to a very painful situation in a constructive manner and not fall into the reactive mode that you contemplated at first. Good work!!!
This disease of alcoholism is indeed cunning and powerful and seeks to destroy all the beauty in life. Reaching out for support from alanon and any other form you find necessary will help.
Positive thoughts and prayers on the way. Please do keep coming back as there is hope and help.
