Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene

Mirandac · ~*Service Worker*~

Transitioning alone

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

((Miranda ))) keep an open mind, listen carefully to the "still small voice within" and know that you are not alone.

Positive thoughts and prayers for a lovely future on the way.I like your courage.

Mirandac · ~*Service Worker*~

I just feel like things are coming together
Even though i am not really ready for them.

I think God is leading me just not sure where
Or what the plans are so i am staying mindful
And just sort of coasting along in my life.

Thank you for your love and support

Hugs

hotrod · ~*Service Worker*~

Good Luck Miranda. Keep showing uo for yourself.

Mirandac · ~*Service Worker*~

Thank you Betty i trust God and i am getting
Some pretty big signs its getting near time To
make a positive move in a different direction
in my life.

Hugs

Iamhere · ~*Service Worker*~

Mirandac - from where I sit, your plan seems logical, thought out and a great next step. I've watched you use this program and trust the tools and HP, and if this feels right, keep your eyes on the prize. My AH retired last August, and I started to freak out as I am not yet of retirement age. I had to breathe deeply and explored alternate insurance. So, I am using the Obamacare and you can get quotes and coverage detail at the government website - I think it's healthcare.gov or something similar.

It meets my needs and was a solution for me until I age out for different choices. Good luck with your program and planning and keep trusting your program and your messages!

(((Hugs)))

Mirandac · ~*Service Worker*~

All of this happening in the last month or so
and its scary. I am just going with it as it
happens. I still am grieving and not out of
My funk yet.

I probably am being tested or being gently
told to get A move on its time.

Seriously i do not plan on moving just yet
But dont want to commit to anything long
term either.

We have an insurance company here that
helps for a small fee with Obama care. At

least i will get figures And see whats what

and be able to talk to Someone local.

Thanks for all your love and support

(((((( hugs )))))

-- Edited by Mirandac on Monday 18th of July 2016 03:24:52 PM

Jen61 · ~*Service Worker*~

Positive thoughts, hugs and prayers.

Mirandac · ~*Service Worker*~

Thanks Jen i hope its something exciting
And fun no matter where i end up. I need
To spread my wings they are just very timid
And Much older wings. HUGS

pinkchip · ~*Service Worker*~

All the cool people are on the east side of south florida....

Mirandac · ~*Service Worker*~

Does that mean you? I really dont know too
Much about florida mostly from what i have
heard from regular snow birds. I hear its
Quieter on the west coast and not so much
Hustle and bustle.

I have been there a hand full of times over
The years. I really like it out west, arizona
And Nevada.

Hugs cool guy

lookingup · ~*Service Worker*~

Wow,I know my hp wanted me to read this share,for I'm right in there with you mirandac,I'm 53 kids grown and out not returning to this town which isn't a good town to be in if your wanting to do things,it's a stale town,no meetings, no where ,I'm been renting here for 14 yrs it's just gonna be me and my 10 yo yorky ,weighing at 4 and half lbs,hard to find a place that's animal freindly,but I'm not giving up ,I've been looking in the bigger towns where's there's meetings also,,I need them ftf meetings,I'm not having any luck as of yet but I have done all I can do on my end calling,driving checking places out,etc.planning on getting my boxes here soon to start down sizeing .im a collecter of what I don't really know,lol,every corner of this house is covered 14 yrs of collecting.but I will depart from it in a min,if and when I find the right place for me and my yorky.milo.im leaving the rest up to my hp and trusting him that it will all work out for the best and I can except that today ,.turning it over.and doing what's right ,hp will take the lead.wow I'm jealous of all these folks moving to Florida that would be a huge change but nice change,I'm in Mississippi not far from fla.6 hr drive from here,but I'm been hearing a lot of good about North Carolina to.very inspiring to hear women at my age and older making such a big change ,I've been telling myself it's time,it's time I did something different with my life and get out of dodge 40 yrs here,lol,time to go ,explore......thanks for that share ....hugs LU....eye opener for me,ty

Mirandac · ~*Service Worker*~

I have been here for 35 years and i always
Wanted to go where its warm in the winter.

Not sure how i will fare in the summer though
I could get a camper here and live in a camp
Ground thats really just talk. I plan on working
Still, so first things first with that idea.

I am sitting in a rental and have very little
possessions. I am ready for a change and to
Get out of my comfort zone. It is very scary.

My mother looms large in my decisions, she
Wants me nearby her. I want my own life and
That does not include giving mine up for her.
She lives two states away and its costly there
And cold in the winter.

In florida i can get a nice unit 15 -25 K in a
Park with an lanai, with pools and Other older
folks many probably Alone too.

It feels good to have a focus on something
Outside of myself and my grief. I am healing
And growing yet i want to stay in my comfort
And safety zone.

HUGS

pinkchip · ~*Service Worker*~

Yes Miranda. I am in Fort Lauderdale. Though west...like Naples is nice too.

Mirandac · ~*Service Worker*~

I like fort lauderdale and hollywood beach
When i have been there. I probably should
Just rent or travel around for awhile. The
Prices in season are so high now in florida.

It Use to be a cheap vacation and car rental,
The old days!!!

Glad you are back on here more

Hugs

LinSC · Senior Member

This sounds exciting! Moving to another location, leaving your "old self" behind, starting a new life with your "new self".

I live alone in Alaska, I am contemplating a move in a year or two, but I have to sell. Who knows where I will end up. I know I am not afraid to be on my own, it gives me lots of freedom. Of course where ever you go "there you are"! But different scenery, environment, people, always leads to new ideas, new doors to be opened. Good Luck you can do this! linsc

Mirandac · ~*Service Worker*~

Thanks LinSC, i just feel change
in the air.

Hugs

KennyFenderjazz · ~*Service Worker*~

For what it's worth, I stayed at a friend's trailer in a park that sounds like what you are talking about in Nokomis, and I would move there in a heartbeat. The park was quiet and well maintained, nice beaches and restaurants close, etc. Not expensive either.

Kenny

Mirandac · ~*Service Worker*~

Thanks Kenny yes that what i am talking about
there are plenty of people that also alone and the
housing Is cheap. Its a weird Feeling being alone
after being married for 30 years. I should just
Think like a widower.

I am talking to people i work with about this
And everyone is supportive. The nurse i have
Worked with for 8 years and is religious told
Me she thought it would help me a lot with my
Healing not being around so many reminders.

I live in a very small area everyone is related
Or inter related and i work with the public too
In a clinic. I am healing, so much of my stuff
is divorce Related issues with the isms of the
disease and all its dysfunction from both sides.

Today i prayed for my xah soul, i am still detaching
and i need to let go and let God. Its Been a pain
filled journey walking around In the muck. I am
getting tired of all the muck yet it seems to keep
Sticking until i let it go.

((((( hugs ))))))

The material presented here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method to exchange information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal level.

Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene