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I have just called my uni and finally gotten through- to a new girl who was relaying a conversation between me and the other girl who is "investigating" my case.
The 3rd hand information I was given (no, she couldn't come to the phone apparently) was that the person who can make the final decision on my case has now gone on leave (for an indeterminate time), she herself will be going on leave tomorrow, and she's passed the information onto a 3rd lady (who is actually the woman who enrolled me in the first place who should have handled this from the start but has been curiously silent) who will get in touch when she knows anything. So, basically, I've waited 2 weeks for my answer and this is what I've gotten. I get quicker, more detailed responses asking my kid what she learned at school today and that's not saying much.
Anyway I've just sent an email to one of the heads of another department because I know him, he's super helpful and he offered to get involved if I couldn't get a sensible answer soon. I've just asked him to put me in touch with someone at his level but from my faculty who can assist me. I think that's a good way to go about it as he knows my case and will hopefully introduce it for me.
It is unbelievable that a straightforward question (how long do I have to finish my degree) is seemingly impossible to answer.
Gah. I was angry-ish, finally, on the phone. I told her I thought it was insane and that I am not happy. Then I felt bad about getting annoyed. (Really?) and then deliberated over sending the email because "maybe she's trying her best and I should just wait". Because that sort of thinking always gets me places. The email doesn't mention her, it just says that I am having trouble getting an answer and yes please, I would appreciate his help. Then I stewed over how she might be upset if she knows I've gone to someone else, or she might be annoyed, or....honestly Melissa, who cares lol.
Crazy. All of it.
-- Edited by missmeliss on Tuesday 21st of June 2016 11:32:13 PM
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If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see? (Lewis Caroll)
He replied immediately and said he will have someone email me confirmation of my enrollment dates tomorrow. He also said 'I've told you before that I don't think there's anything to be concerned about". So I guess maybe he thinks I am pushing enquiries out of thin air and not that I have actually been told conflicting information on repeat occasions. But you know what? It doesn't really matter what I think he thinks. I started to write an explanation (to JADE) and then erased it and replied with a simple thank you. He's nice, he helped, and that's the end of it. Yay!
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If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see? (Lewis Caroll)
I tend to delete stuff after a while if I have written a lot about other people who might easily identify themselves if they went hunting around online. Sometimes I need to discuss this stuff with supportive people but leaving it in cyber-space long term makes me uneasy and seems wrong to me.
-- Edited by missmeliss on Wednesday 22nd of June 2016 12:47:24 AM
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If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see? (Lewis Caroll)
If you need to demonstrate that there is indeed a concern, you might quote the runaround from others directly in the email.
The fact that the one prof thinks there is no cause for concern is encouraging in that he clearly thinks justice says that you should be allowed to finish your degree without all the outrageous re-taking of courses etc. So he will express his convictions if he can be made to see that the others are inefficient and giving you the runaround. I hope they will communicate with each other and just tell you when the problem is solved. What an aggravation and a complete waste of time. Hang in there!
Mel email is a tool in this situation. Document ur version of events in chronological order and watch them jump. Seriously. In our modern world the written word is akin to law. Just be factual. Trust me, 7years in court plus an ex who stalked me at bloody law school and I was told verbally nothing could be done. Things didn't change until I utilised the gift you and I both share which is the written word. Do not back down you are worth the future you have invested both time and money in. Love you girl you've got this.
Great Work MsM. I am glad that you had the courage to act regardless of what your" automatic negative voices" were saying. It sounds as if the new person that you contacted is on the ball and you will get what you need-- I am happy for you. Now you can prepare for vacation. )
(((MissMel))) - great job engaging with one who offered to help and is chasing some answers for you! I agree with A4L - having your facts documented into one file that you can use to support what's transpired would be very 'golden' for this. You got this and I'm still sending positive thoughts and prayers! Advocating for you is so worth it girl - you got this!!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
