The material presented
here is not Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature. It is a method
to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I can relate to this from all sides - my own on both as well as my qualifiers. I have to use PAUSE at times and literally ask myself what is the adult response to this situation....not easy to admit but better than my reacting without thought before recovery.
Thanks for sharing that article/post mirandac - this spoke to me.....and I can relate to this big time...
"Emotionally immature individuals walk through life blaming their problems on the people in their lives or their situations and circumstances. They blame others for their anger, sadness and depression, but rarely look inwardly. Instead of assuming responsibility for how they feel, they expect others in their life to see their points of view. They attempt to control others which is something you cannot control.
Emotionally immature people are emotionally dependent. They seek to find reasons to justify their feelings and often are skilled at manipulating others. Rather than accept what is, emotionally dependent people tend to obsess about how to get others to think like them. They will resort to unhealthy behaviors to get their way, even if it cost them what was once a loving relationship."
(((Hugs))) being gentle with ourselves while we explore different ways to 'be' is a lovely path for forward progress!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Thanks IAM there was more great reading on there too.
I am still in an emotional fog i hope one day it Will lift. I Just keep learning, growing and changing with my HP love.
My vision is clearing with detachment and no contact And the wounds are starting to heal. Just because they are not visible does not mean its not taking a lot of my energy to heal.
((((((( hugs )))))))
-- Edited by Iamhere on Sunday 31st of January 2021 01:00:28 PM
Good insight, thanks for sharing it. I see waaaaay too much of myself in there!
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If I had a world of my own, everything would be nonsense. Nothing would be what it is, because everything would be what it isn't. And contrary wise, what is, it wouldn't be. And what it wouldn't be, it would. You see? (Lewis Caroll)
Hey - I am all for any and every tool, reading, etc. that helps with healing. I can say that when I switched from my rock/roll music (love still) to Christian Rock, I grew and change even more. Having such a hard time often with meditation, listening to the words of those songs helped me think differently about spirituality, love, hope and healing!
I am with you girls on that continuous seeking of spiritual healing. For me, the more spiritual I can be/get the less my heart hurts from all I've seen, gone through and experienced!
Thanks for sharing the blog! I'll keep my eyes on it!
And you know - I'm a huge fan of Joel Osteen - I tune in every Sunday for him!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
I have a stack of books i even have
the bible. I laugh about that one. The
Minister gave it to me to read i tried
To return it, no go.
I go to church yet I am spiritual only
and i enjoy the fellowship, that is
where i went to Divorce care. That
program opened up my soul it was
Very Sadly lost. Weird how you do
not even Notice one part of you is
missing.
My ex was agnostic and i no longer
Attended church. I am a very lapsed
catholic.
I have one friend we always talked about
Those types of subjects she is very spiritual
Person. I loved our talks in the woods walking
our dogs. She meditates and does yoga.
I am one who is grateful for a loving God who doesn't care what I wear just that I am 'there'......this to me no longer means weekly in a beautiful building but daily in willingness, service and love.
Keep growing mirandac - by any means available - I am one who believes the answers to that which affects us are in our spiritual existence vs. our bodily existence. (((Hugs))) back to you!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
Whoa - reading that was like reading about my spouse. Like, "who has he been talking to that wrote this article about him"? I literally just got through hearing about how his family members have wronged him (again) and nothing is on him, how all the family drama about drinking is because We are all crazies and over-sensitive while he is "the guy in a good place".
I totally want to send this article to him but I'm pretty sure it would make him mad right now (since he's very hot and bothered about his family at this particular moment) so I'm going to have to save it for later.
Thank you Fedora i loved reading those articles
Because its about spirituality not alcoholism.
Many think we understand what it means to
Be emotionally immature when the true depth
Is scary. My ex was always somewhat controlling,
His world had to be how he liked it.
When things started going against how he liked it
and when he was not in control our life became
Mired in misery because of his poor coping Skills.
My coping was not the greatest either but i am
not an Immature person so i could ride the storms
Better with more maturity.
