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Hope for today may 24


Good morning everyone-

Today's reading is about the damage gossip can do- on others and ourselves. Staying away from gossip keeps us away from business that is not ours and keeps us closer to our focus on ourselves and our recovery.  The writer has set a boundary not to speak about someone if the person is not present. In this way there is also no reason to pass judgment on others' decisions or to have opinions about the behavior of anyone besides ourselves.

The thought for the day sums this up so simply and beautifully: "Whatever I concentrate on will become central to my life".

Every day I remind my students that they have only one person to be focused on..themselves.  Middle school students spend plenty of time concerned with the business of everyone around them but I realize that tendency is certainly not confined to middle schoolers!  I will work on hearing my own advice- the truth is I feel better inside and out when I am not participating in gossip or minding other people's business.

Hope you all enjoy a wonderful Tuesday!

Mary

 



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.Great topic Mary. I can remember when I first discovered how gossip filled my days and saw what a waste of time it really was. I was working at a Company that was "downsizing" and the negative gossip that was a constant at the office would fill me with anxiety and fear on a daily bases. I announced that I was not longer going to participate in this "entertainment" and was so surprised to discover the amazing change that I felt within.

I then carried this principle over into everyday life and have never regretted this decision. I find others respect my principle and am no longer involved in petty disagreements or disputes.

Thanks for your service,Mary . I hope you have a lovely Tuesday

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Gossip is a great topic. It really affects me in my current pursut as a nursing student. Hi stress intensive program, lots of younger students, faculty turn over. I am really 12 stepping my way through and I have learned to say my peace and move on. It is what it is, i don't have to control it, I don't need people to agree with me. i say my bit and let it go.

Gossip when thinking about addiction brings to mind a lot of hurtful things. When people stop being able to manipulate you, they tend to try to manipulate what others think of you. All you can do is let it go and know that you can't stop what people say or control what they say. You CAN put your head down, take care of you, and be the person you want to be for yourself to be proud. Eventually you others will see your true self as well. Just keep stepping. :)



-- Edited by Rinn on Tuesday 24th of May 2016 09:36:37 PM

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I am really 12 stepping my way through and I have learned to say my peace and move on. It is what it is, i don't have to control it, I don't need people to agree with me. i say my bit and let it go.  Awesome Rinn It works when you work and it sounds like you are working it.   (((hugs))) wink



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Gossip is such an easy thing to be pulled into. I've been guilty of it, and I've been a victim of it. What I try to think, inside of my head, is this...Is what I am sharing going to be harmful or helpful to the person I am talking about. There are times, especially with some friends who are battling cancer, that my friends and I talk about the ones who are suffering. The conversations are to help one another through our hurts over the situation. My goal is to never say anything that I would not share, of have not shared, about the individual.

Thank you for your share, Mary. Middle school is such a tough age for kids. They are trying to figure out what is going on in their bodies, and then have to deal with so much social media bullying, and other issues that go along with gossip. I'm thankful that my children are past that age, but I see what my 14 year old niece goes through, and it hurts my heart. The kids at your school are blessed to have you for a teacher.

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Wow, this really spoke to me. I am also a teacher and I just completed my first year in an extremely dysfunctional district.  Because I've lost touch with my Higher Power over the past few years (I relapsed and became obsessed with fixing, managing, and controlling people and situations that were not my business), I got sucked into some very negative situations fueled by gossip. I took my (unfounded) concerns over my boss' head. I went so far as to request a transfer to a sister school in the district. I had a good year and my employment is secure, but it is an example of how quickly my thinking and behavior can deteriorate when I am not in conscious contact with my Higher Power. I need this program. I am very glad you all are here. Thanks for the share.



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