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Hi everyone. After removing myself from the drama of an alcoholic home and then coming back to a sober spouse for a few days, I have to admit tonight I'm not doing so well. I have noticed that my A has been short and condescending since I came home and without the alcohol to make her tolerate me and being civil, it has affected me greatly today and I felt like I've lost my serenity. Since being back from vacation and really working hard on myself, I've slipped back into the self-pity, depression mode, and even questioning whether or not I can deal with all of this. Before all of this, my A and I were getting along really well and communicating. Now since being back, it is like the old A where there's all this pent up destain that both of us are unleashing. It's unhealthy. I feel like I've taken 20 steps back. I'm so frustrated, angry, and upset. I feel like the world is caving in on me. After all the work, I'm back to Step 1- I'm helpless against alcohol. Or is it I just don't know how to approach this new phase of sobriety, which feels like an earlier stage of drunkeness when things were really chaotic? I know advice is not given here, but if there is literature that can help me now dealing with this new change, I'd appreciate it. Thanks!
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Butterflies can't see their wings. They can't see how truly beautiful they are, but everyone else can. People are like that as well. Anonymous
Recovery on both sides of the fence is a process, We also can relapse into old behaviors so that is why we need to keep coming back.
The tools work and I found that working the first 3 steps daily as well as Step 11 helps to keep me on target.
Step 4 through 10 worked with a sponsor helped me to learn what defects I use to hurt myself so keep coming back
Gabigail try to keep focused on you and your
Own Recovery and healing not the relationship.
Go To as many ftf mtgs as you can. They will
Be your life line right now.
