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Post Info TOPIC: Courage to Change 5-1-2016


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Courage to Change 5-1-2016


The C2C reading for today , May 1, talks about some of our negative habits that keep us unhappy and living in the  victim role.
It goes on to indicate that when we "day dream" and think "if ionly" my partner was sober, rich,  more successful then I would be happy.  It suggest that by so doing .many of us have  placed our happiness beyond our control.  The reading  implies that if we applied the first step  and admitted that if we are powerless over people places and things, then HP could restore us to sanity, as we could easily surrender our "If Only" to HP. When we do this we stop acting like victims,waiting for things to change, and choose to take a more active role in seeking happiness in the here and now.
 
 The today's reminder suggests that there are many things in our lives that we cannot change-- however what we can change is our attitude. By accepting my life as it is. I can be grateful and happy here and now with what I don have.
 
The quote is from our Artur Rubinstein:" life holds so much- so much to be happy about always. Most people ask for happiness on conditions. Happiness can be felt only if you don't set conditions."
 
I have found making an asset and gratitude list daily, really helps me to feel grateful each day as I walk around seeing trees, squirrels, birds, flowers, and children. For years I walked around without noticing any of this. Thank you Al-Anon for this gift
 Happy First of May 
 
 
 

 

   


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Thank you Betty - Happy May Day to you! Love this share and as it happens, our meeting today was about relationship habits and trying new ways/tools/attitudes/approaches. A person was sharing that he is on Day 4 of getting the silent treatment from his wife and realized that was a style he had also used. He wanted feedback on why we treat those we love with these silly approaches/ways. It was a great, great meeting.

I have been realizing that it is 'safe' to stay in my routine, do my thing, and work my program. I love my safe choices and safe life, but I realized this morning that I am healthy and strong enough now to also take some risks. Stepping outside my comfort zone to find things and people I do enjoy (or do not) without the filter or lens of the disease. It surely made me feel poorly about myself, diminished my value and my confidence. With that 'tone', I started recovery and I am ready to go further.

I love the quote - how true is it that I lived with conditional expectations. My whole world was If Only....Then. Or When ..... Then. I am happy today in spite of what others are doing or not doing and even though everything is not perfect. I am where I am supposed to be and HP has me/this all under control.

I too love gratitude and asset lists - they are a fast way to help me turn any frown upside down!!

(((Hugs)))

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I should have read this before I posted about feeling peeved that "everyone else" seems to have someone that helps and I have to do it allll by myself.
Gratitude list coming up

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ROFL..........................MissMell - that just made me literally laugh out loud!!

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Thanks for sharing! Definitely, a wonderful reading. May 1... wow, everything is budding here. The trees have tiny leaves and wildflowers are beginning to pop. Even the dogs are excited to be out and enjoying the Spring weather. Gratitude schmatitude. LOL  That's what I'm usually thinking when I need to write a gratitude list. I do feel better after writing one I never regret doing it, but getting start sometimes isn't easy :)  I've been doing some Spring cleaning and purging a lot of stuff. Those old fears still kick up every once in awhile that someday I may need (fill in the blank) and the finances won't be there to buy (fill in the blank) and then I will regret having given this extra one away. I don't want to continue creating this illusion of safety through owning too much stuff. The same can be said about my relationships. I feel better when there's a sense of balance concerning my interactions with others. Sure there are times when things happen and I can feel a little more needy and the same can be said of those who are closest to me. We care and will depend on one another a little more from time to time. I can be on the giving or receiving end of that minus that old feeling of desperation. That is definitely progress for me compared to the old days when I my happiness was dependent on what expectations of mine someone else could fill. There really is no person, no circumstance or material thing that is going to change my life for the better. I've learned through experience that the material things I have today, I may not have tomorrow.  The people who are in my life today may not be tomorrow. The only consistent thing is my higher power. Trying to think more about what I can give to someone else through the guidance of my hp is proving to be much better for my recovery. If it's a material thing I give away, I have space for what hp feels suites my  needs today. If it's an action that I take or receive from some else, it offers an opportunity to connect, learn something to know someone. Hp knows what I need for happiness and has my back and will keep guiding my life. I only complicate things when I project, lose and sight of the present and the gifts of my hp. My job is to try not to worry; but instead stay open to hp's guidance. TT

 



-- Edited by tiredtonite on Sunday 1st of May 2016 04:19:59 PM

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