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el-cee


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Todays reading in C2C is one of my favourites. Its beautiful. It has such simple wisdom in it. It says 'I block my own well being each time I base my self worth on what I do or what others think of me'

So true. I have identified one of my shortcomings as people pleasing and looking for validation of my worth from others. Being flattered by compliments or using humour to get attention or being loud to get attention. I can lose myself in the quest for approval and what Im actually doing is placing personalities above principles. Im putting others opinions of me above my own self awareness and self knowledge that Ive worked to get.

Using all sorts of tactics to please other people, what is it that drives this? I can lose my self respect trying to fill this hole of approval. Why do I care what others think? I stopped caring and got tremendous freedom through Alanon  but its creeped in again lately.

Its all about the steps. If I am working step 3 - staying in Gods will and not being impulsive or reactive then Im calm and my behavior and actions are about patience and kindness and calmness then my self esteem grows because I know Im not all about my ego and attention seeking and reacting to everything. 

I love the reminder, 'Today when faced with choices, I will opt for the path that enhances my self esteem. 'Im learning to live a full life, one in which I like and care for the person I am.'



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hotrod


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Thanks for sharing your thought LC . I can easily identify.
Ms.M already posted thoughts on today's reading at this link : alanon.activeboard.com/t62052774/courage-to-change-274/
Focusing on ourselves, treating everyone with courtesy and respect works well.

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THE HIGHEST FORM OF WISDOM IS KINDNESS

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Iamhere


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I do agree that today's reading is a great one to ear-mark for reference more often than once a year! It's beautiful and so very important to my program!

Thanks El-Cee for your share and ESH!

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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging.  Pause before assuming.  Pause before accusing.  Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret.  ~~~~  Lori Deschene

 

 
Mirandac


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I think self love is the biggest gift
Of The program. I will be eternally
Grateful for that special gift in all
My affairs.

((((( elcee))))

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