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MY SIS IN LAW FINALLY STEPPED UP AND GOT AH INTO HOSPITAL. HE WAS NEAR DEATH BUT STILL RELUCTANT. SHE IS HANDLING SOME OF HIS FINANCES NOW. MY LIFE HAS JUST GOTTEN MORE COMPLICATED AS I WATCH TO SEE IF HE WILL RECOVER. THAT WILL DETERMINE WHETHER I WILL TURN OVER OWNERSHIP OF HOUSE TO HIM, FILE DIVORCE OR WAIT TO SEE IF HE DOESNT MAKE IT. I DONT MEAN TO SOUND HARD ABOUT IT. HE IS HUMAN AND SUFFERING AND I FEEL AWFUL ABOUT IT.

OTHER THAN THAT,IM GRATEFUL FOR THE SUPPORT AND AWESOME HELP OF MY NEW/OLD BOYFRIEND. HE HAS SHOWN TO ME HOW HE UNDERSTANDS MY NEEDS ESPECIALLY TO MAINTAIN A TOTAL INDEPENDANT PART OF ME SO I DONT DISSOLVE INTO AND ABSORB OTHERS LIVES AND LIVE THEIRS NOT MY LIFE. HE IS TOTALLY ONBOARD WITH MY ALANON TEACHINGS ETC

SO IAM GETTING A LITTLE BREAK FROM TIME TO TIME FROM THE STRESS ETC. HE TAKES ME SHOPPING,THE MOVIES ,OUT TO EAT ETC SOMETIMES WE JUST LAY ON THE COUCH AND DISCUSS OUR LIVES,FEELINGS,GOALS



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ALYCE R KINIKIN


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Good for you Alyce. No need to apologize, you are living life on life's terms I believe, which is our goal, right? I'm glad for you that someone else is doing some caretaking.

Kenny

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I agree with Kenny - good for you that you are present and in your own truth. Prayers for your husband - I totally understand the wait-n-see approach - our program does tell us, when in doubt, don't. There's no need to do anything when other issues are in flux! I had to learn that through trial/error - I want things done, off my plate, closed, etc. and that's not always the plan my HP has for me...

Enjoy life - know that your AH is in the hands of others and his recovery is his choice.

(((Hugs))) - thanks for the update - you/he have been on my mind!!

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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging.  Pause before assuming.  Pause before accusing.  Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret.  ~~~~  Lori Deschene

 

 

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