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Post Info TOPIC: Courage to Change Reading 11-26 Happy Thanksgiving


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Courage to Change Reading 11-26 Happy Thanksgiving


 C2C reading for November 26 speaks about the negative feeling of "not belonging." It suggests that many times we go to an Al-Anon Meeting and  feel we don't belong.  The members understand this, and urge us to keep coming back". Because alcoholism is a family disease, they understand that this feeling of "not belonging"  is the result of  living with the disease as it not only affects the person who drinks but those who care about him or her. The effects of this disease are often passed from one generation to another. Today's reminder tells us that in Al-Anon we find people who understand as few others can. If I have been affected by the drinking of another, I need not doubt that I belong.

The quote is from,In All Our Affairs; "no matter what the difficulty, no matter how uniquely we feel, somewhere nearby are men and women with similar stories with help, comfort and hope for recovery in Al-Anon.
 
I do say that I felt terminally unique when I entered the rooms of Al-Anon.  I  thought that  I was different and knew that this program would not work. I am so glad that the members encouraged me "to keep coming back", keep an open mind and live one day at a time. By so doing I was able to shed my terminally uniqueness and become one in this fellowship of equals. Thank you Al-Anon
 
 
 Using Program Tools make it a Great and Happy Thanksgiving.  I am off to make a Gratitude list and visit sisteraww.  
 
 

 

 


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Betty - thanks for the daily and your ESH. May your day with your sister be awesome, joyful and tons of fun!!!

I can relate to the reading and your share. I remember that I didn't feel I was a part of, I felt a part from and it was so difficult to keep coming back. I had to sit and listen for the similarities with an open mind, and choose to focus each time my mind/heart drifted to my own situation. I am so thankful that those who came before me kept asking me to return and telling me they cared and reminding me that I could and would feel better if I was able to work this program.

I too am grateful that I was able to become a part of and that I have hope today, each day, for peace and joy. I am cooking right here and not entirely sure who might appear and that's just going to be OK for me for today.

(((Hugs))) & Happy Thanksgiving!!

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I remember when my ex husband was in rehab and they suggested alanon. Like millions before me "I'm not the addict,he is".. lol
Thanks to this program that insecure, scared woman no longer exists,she's been replaced by a strong ,confident (most days) fighter.
If you open your ears and close your mouth amazing things happen



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I know that situation because I came and left and then came and stayed permanently.  Keep coming back indeed!!  Mahalo Betty ((((hugs)))) wink



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Funny, I never thought that the program would not work for me, my problem was that I
did not know that it existed!! Happy Thanksgiving to all my MIP family members.

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Betty,

Thank you for posting this today.  I have been hesitant to go to a meeting because I went (to just a few) some years back and felt honestly like I did not belong in that room.  I could handle this on my own, my AH wasn't as far gone as the people in the stories I heard about, and boy, some of these people seem so defeated.  What I didn't see then was that it was just a matter of time for me - now I understand that I am powerless, as is my husband, as are my children.  I cannot handle this alone.  I really cannot.  I also understand now that what I thought was "defeat" was actually acceptance.  I believe the saying that when the student is ready, the teacher will appear. I am ready.  I do and will belong.



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