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Good bye I love you


I deal with facts,I hate assuming things I'm not a mind reader. I'm in the Let go and Let God stage..

I love this man with all my heart, but living my life in limbo isn't working for me.

Last text was Sunday,no mention of our holiday plans..so it's time to take off the ring and move on



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(((Ceewi))) Holidays are difficult at times Please make sure to have a plan and take care of you.

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(((Ceewi))) - I agree with Betty - take care of you and do what makes you happy. Holidays are so stressful for 'normal families' if such a thing exists. They tend to be even more difficult when living with this disease or the affects of it. I try to look at it as just another day - when I worked in the real world, I was always grateful for the day off but did my best to try and just relax and enjoy...

Make it the best week possible by staying in the moment and trusting your HP!!

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Thanks ladies..I'm not much of a holiday person..each day is a holiday so I celebrate life..not a day on a calendar. I'll probably try reaching out one more time to let him know that he still has someone who loves him.
I think he suffers from depression and I couldn't in good conscience just walk away without letting him know I'm gone. I've "talked him off the ledge" before and will check on him from time to time. But right now..today I have to love him from across the street.
I'm the type of person if you're my friend..its a lifetime commitment. I'm looking at my ring and wondering if I should mail it back

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Sus


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I too am taking off my ring today. I can no longer "adapt" to the behaviors. More power to us!!! We deserve better!

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Iamhere wrote:

(((Ceewi))) - I agree with Betty - take care of you and do what makes you happy. Holidays are so stressful for 'normal families' if such a thing exists. They tend to be even more difficult when living with this disease or the affects of it. I try to look at it as just another day - when I worked in the real world, I was always grateful for the day off but did my best to try and just relax and enjoy...

Make it the best week possible by staying in the moment and trusting your HP!!


 ~~The key to happiness is letting each situation be what it is instead of what you think it should be. ~~  Mandy Hale



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Hugs to you Ceewi..do something special for yourself for the holiday[get nails done,browse with coffee at a bookshop etc]
I am not taking off my ring..first wedding ring was so cheap,stone fell out. after he was doing well, he didnt save up for a decent ring so when i saw one i liked, i bought it and he paid me back.. real romantic..lol
im keeping this ring and wearing it on other hand! as I leave him

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