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Hi everyone! I've come here seeking advice.....support....basically just want to know I'm not alone! I am attending AlAnon, but have not reached out to get a sponsor yet. My AH comes home from Rehab tomorrow. He put himself there 30 days ago. I am scared to death! Prior to him going, I was ready to leave him. My life had become unmanageable! We have been together for 24 years and married for 21. That's a lot of years to throw away, but I was done! How am I supposed to feel now? How am I supposed to get excited tomorrow when I see him? Yes I love him.....yes I missed him......but I also truly enjoyed the peace! So conflicted!! in advance for any words of encouragement!
Welcome IsLoveEnough to MIP - so glad you found us and glad you joined us!
Great to here you are going to F2F meetings - super grand plan in anticipation of your AH coming home. Keep working on you and stay in the moment and it will be how it's supposed to be!
Keep coming back here and know that you're not alone! My hope is he's able to maintain his recovery, just like we do, one day at a time!
Glad you're here!!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
I can completely understand your nerves and conflicted feelings. I hope all goes well today for both of you - I expect that you both might like the peace to continue. I am sometimes inclined to focus on what might go wrong but in reality I would be better served by listening to how I would feel if things went right! I imagine that during the past month you have established some new routines and this is going to be one hell of an adjustment for you both so be gentle with yourselves and each other - just see what the day brings.
Welcome 1st, I do understand your concern as I have been in that situation and know how uncomfortable it is. I am happy that you found alanon and are attending. The suggestion that you make no major life changes for the first 6 months in program is very valid. Please trust the porcess
Today remember the serenity prayer, stay in the moment and in the day, remember that you are pwoerless over this chronic disease, and if there is a meeting plan to attend.
Keep coming back here as well. It does get better.
Welcome to MIP. Al-Anon teaches us that we should focus on ourselves and live in the moment. So worrying about the past and future can essentially be tabled, until one sees how things go. Hope all goes well.
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"Forgiveness doesn't excuse bad behavior, but it
does prevent bad behavior from destroying your heart". ~ unknown
Thank you all for your words of encouragement. I have also been reminded to Let Go and Let God! That is a tough one for me but I'm working on it! I leave in an hour to go get him. :)
