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After a long week trying to put together my emotions after my boyfriends 4 day binge I finally had a talk with him. I told him that I was having a hard time after everything that happened and that I was working on myself and my boundaries. I also said that I am still not sure that I want to be with him yet when things are so crazy. That its on me to get health for me and him for him. That even though with me trying to keep our issues separate I still have moments where its hard to control my emotions but that I am working on that and I'm sorry if I have projected that onto him. That its my problem how I react to these things not his. I also said I love him very much and I want things to work and I hope they do. He said hes not sure yet if he wants to be together while hes working on himself as well. He said he knows he has a lot to work on and so do I and that when we see progress hopefully we will get some clarity on what we want. That he also loves me very much and wants it to work out. He said that he was happy I came to him and that he wants to keep communication open that its only fair to the both of us if we do. He then came over and hugged me. After our talk I went to my Friday night meeting and had a huge brake through about my mom and my relationship and how its been growing. I felt really good. The rest of the weekend was really good I feel like opening up a bit more to my boyfriend released some tension in both of us. He was so sweet and loving all week. Later on in the weekend we talked about him not coming back east with me to meet my family this had been a huge issue with us a few weeks ago. I really wanted him to come and he decided not to. I was really upset about this for weeks. He said that hes going to have a very hard time not coming with me but that he was just not ready yet. I told him I understood and that maybe it was for the best as I would like to spend some alone time with my Mom and sister. Anyways that was my weeks. Hope you all had a good weekend :)
Hey, IAAM - sounds as if you've had some progress (great progress) in your recovery journey. Just keep on keeping on and you will get where you need to be.
Sounds as if your weekend was awesome and that's a gift we get when we work on ourselves. May your week continue on a positive note.
Thanks for sharing your update and your journey with us!! (((Hugs)))
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
