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For as long as I can remember, I have been referred to as being negative. I have often argued that truth is truth and therefore not positive or negative and I still believe/agree with this to some degree. My perception of truth has changed though and I pray for the better.
What I have noticed is that my "negativity" seems to be lessening everyday now. I realize this is partially due to the fact that AH is in recovery and doing well with his program and partly because of the changes I have personally made and the decisions I have made regarding worry, frustration, and removing myself from the company of "destructive" people.
This MIP board has given me so much peace and so much support, without even trying. I still have a long way to go, but it's odd that people are starting to notice the personality change and to express how much better they feel around me because I am "not so negative all of the time" anymore. It's a strange and very, very good feeling.
I will continue to pray, to work my program, and to reach out as much as possible for help and support because the feeling of happiness is contagious...as was the negativity I was spreading with every breath.
The Serenity Prayer is the mantra I use to stop the negative mind racing and I use it all of the time. I also use the "fake it till you make it" theory when putting on a happier face. It also seems to be helping quite a bit. It feels really good to be so calm with the serious issues going on in my home right now. They are unnecessary to mention because everybody has Junk to deal with, but not everybody sees catrospny at every turn.
Before Al-Anon, I Was One that Could Throw Negativity like No Body's Business... And 90% of the Time The Negativity that I was Throwing was Truly NONE OF MY BUSINESS... :/ But with the Work On these Steps, and The Love & Support from My Al-Anon/MIP Family, the Happy Place I have Found is a Much Nice Place to Be ;)
I have Also Learned that when I Continue Radiate "Happiness" On a More Day to Day Basis, Those Around Me Tend to Lighten up a Bit as Well... For me it is Remaining in that Place for As Long as I Possibly Can, and When I Feel My Back Sliding down the Negative Nelly Trail, I "Vote with Me Feet" and Get Out of there Fast...
For Me it Helps Everyday Thanking HP Before My Feet Hit the Floor, For another Day to Learn, Another Day to Grow, and Another Day to Be All that I can be... And when I Give him all the Glory Right out of the Gate, My Days Start Out Brighter, and My Will Slowly Releases its Grip which allows HP to Shine...
Thanks for this Share... You are Well on Your Way to "Happy, Joyous & Free!"
I too can relate to the 'negativity'. When others suggested I had a negative outlook, I debated them suggesting I wasn't negative, I was a realist. After all, there is so much wrong in our world.....
Sigh - I too have made changes for the better since starting this program. I too have had a few people suggest they notice a change. It's kind of strange as I never really gave much thought to how we feel on the inside and how it shows on the outside. Apparently, when we have peace, serenity and joy it does shine through!
Thanks so much for the post DMB.....I love that you're find peace and changes for the better as you embrace this program! It's just cooler than cool that others have noticed! Yet another gift of the work you are putting in and the outcome it's causing...
Glad you are here and glad we are on this journey together!
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Practice the PAUSE...Pause before judging. Pause before assuming. Pause before accusing. Pause whenever you are about to react harshly and you will avoid doing and saying things you will later regret. ~~~~ Lori Deschene
