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Make your life great


These are random musings from what I have learned over several years in recovery :

 

Choose happiness. Don't settle for less than you want in life. Accept things you can't change, but don't forget to change the things you can and want to. Remember you have choices and can choose to not be miserable.  You and your HP are the ones who matter most in your life. Other people have their own HP and it is not you. Go be happy today or at least take steps in that direction. This is your life and your HP wants you to enjoy it, not suffer all the time.

 

This line of thinking is what the 12 steps gave me. It set me free from my addiction to suffering, negativity, chaos, crappy relationships, and alcohol.  Stive for freedom and happiness not muddling by miserably. 

 

And this isn't  necessarily about whether you stay with or leave an alcoholic.  It's  about how you think, how you value yourself, and how you approach life in general.

 

12 step programs do not change anyone else but you...Support from others who know your pain is great, but staying in pain is your choice and that is where recovery  gets challenging, scary, but where it is most rewarding if you face your fears and do the work on yourself.

 

Hope this helps someone.

 

 



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Great message Mark.

I would just like to add that  it is extremely important to be  Gentle with yourself in the process and to  " Keep an open mind" in order to grasp the concepts that are outlined.






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Thank you for this share :) I needed to hear this TODAY!

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This is exactly why I came here! I don't know whether to scream or cry. Really. I was just sitting here, not being able to sleep, reeling over the absence of yet another pedestal-sitter in my head, thinking "What/who am I going to make my entire life about now?", (I know that answer is me, with the help of HP, just like you said). I *SO* wanted to be this other person's HP - even though I knew intellectually that was a dumb notion. But knowing these steps and phrases and living them are two different things.

Being nobody else's HP feels like such a leap off into grand nothingness! I can console myself that before puberty, I was not in the habit of trying to be anybody's savior, so surely I'm capable of getting back to that again.

This means I have to focus on myself, but that feels like a very humdrum prospect compared to all those self-absorbed people I keep getting drawn to. I want to get to the point where I will not trade in my serenity and sense of self for anybody else's insecurities, no matter how cute the individual might be. 

Thank you for this message of strength, direction and healthier way of being, to aim for.

 



-- Edited by ClearTheFog on Monday 24th of August 2015 10:49:15 PM

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Thank you Mark.


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Just thinking about what HP means to everyone! Thank you for your post!
HP has be the cornerstone to my recovery. I always had a strong faith and
belief and Al-anon steps, prayers, tools and meditations were easy for me
to grasp and very grateful for MIP and Al-anon to show me the way through
my HP, to a healthier life.

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I really used to think l had to suffer through things. I looked at everything as God sending crap my way to deal with. God made me gay...God made me have challenges with depression...God made me less capable than others...What was the result of thinking that way? Misery and at the mercy of others to make my life what I wanted it to be. Now I see challenges that help me grow. Most of the time, adversity is a signal for me to change or adapt for the better or make a change in my surroundings. Yeah, I am not sunshine and rainbows every day. Sometimes things really are difficult and challenging but not every single day. I can't live with too much negativity or constant chaos...drama. I did that for much of my life. I refuse. I either won't let that stuff into my figurative circle which encompasses me and my HP, or...if I do, I let it in, see what it is, and get it away from me/walk away/avoid it.

I looked at life like a death sentence. No wonder I attracted and stayed with negative people. I was one.

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I have choices and can choose not to be miserable. That is exactly what I needed to hear this am. I let myself get angry with my XAH yesterday and it was all me trying to control things. A dear friend gently suggested that I might be trying to control him and I see that he was right. Now I need to choose to let go and not be miserable.

Thanks for sharing this.

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I think being gentle with yourself is the
Most important thing you can do when
You are in recovery and transitioning.

Its not easy or quick to change and
Grow. Keep embracing the good push
Away the bad.

I want to be myself again one day.
Happy on the inside and painfree.

One baby step to a time



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Thanks Mark for Your Share.... Always Love to See HP In Motion of Hope, Love, and Inspiring Growth ;)

Thanks for Sharing this Journey

Jozie

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I needed to read this right now. I actually just hopped on here to post about how much I was struggling. I literally just texted a family member about feeling depressed and hopeless.

I can choose NOT to be miserable...

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And don't forget ICE CREAM!! A good sized bowl of it and greatness is insured.  Mahalo Mark for the post I can look forward to my day now and my bowl of ice cream.   (((((hugs))))) biggrin



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"Make Your Life Great" 

by Mark 

Sounds and reads like the beginning of a great book. 

;) linsc 



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Love this pc and I feel exactly the same. When I think about the years I spent sick deep in this disease but sober it makes me throw myself into life as much as I can. You have been part of that for me do thanks. Ps hurry up and come to Scotland.x

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Wonderful share pinkchip! Thanks for the lovely inspirational post - I needed this today for sure!

Keep sharing with us - it always brightens my day and my brain when I read what you've written.

At times, I believe you're my brother from another mother.....ha.ha.ha.ha...

(((Hugs)))

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Thank you PC that was a great, direct message. With age, experience and some wisdom my approach to life has changed quite a bit. I used to think that my life was perfectly fine the way it was before the pain of having an alcoholic child was put in my path. I am now beginning to recognize that a lot of the ways I previously would have handled things was not in my best interests nor others. This program has helped me to grow in ways that I do not believe would have happened if I had not sought it out and for that I am grateful. While I would wish for the disease of alcoholism to disappear from my life, on the other hand my experience with it has resulted in some positive changes that I am beginning to recognize so it is not all doom and gloom.

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Thanks Mark! Loved reading what everyone had to share here. For me, I know it's all about choices and I can now choose to NOT be a victim. I can choose to make my life great, as well. Hugs and support to you this week!

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Thanks for the post pc. I've re-read it 3 times now.



-- Edited by littlelionman on Wednesday 26th of August 2015 08:08:33 PM

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wonderful post. puts alot of things in prespective. thanks. totally re readable

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