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mjferg


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Well,I have posted before about a situation in my life that was causing problems,basically it was an issue with my daughter's boyfriend moving in and taking advantage of me,To explain, the night he came to my house,his father was drunk and they were fighting so I felt sorry for him and I ended up being manipulated,again!!!!He wasn't working,etc.Anyway things came to a head and I said he had to move out.Now I am a bad person,I guess.My daughter is angry,of course.Also,the boy's mother has unfriended me on facebook.She doesn't even know what happened as we haven't even talked about it.Basically she is also being manipulated by her son.I don't like drama,so I am not participating in it.I really have no respect for anyone in the family.So I have more work to do,more boundary setting,of course,and just being more careful about decisions.



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Mary
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Hi Mary, you probably did the kid a favor by telling him to move out. Maybe now he will see that he has to work for a living to be able to support himself and live on his own. I wonder why he doesn't live with his mother?? I wouldn't worry too much about her unfriending you. You were nice enough to let him live there for the time that he did. She should be thanking you. Sometimes I really don't get people and I get exhausted trying.

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So sorry for the drama.....I feel your pain and just can't stand it when there is chaos swirling around me!

Just let go and let God - he'll take care of all this for you!!

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Debb


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Mary, sorry that this has become an uncomfortable situation,

I do understand how you feel.  The problem is that you

tried to help and sometimes when we try to help we do

not always see or get the results that we intended.  So

you did the best you could, for all the right reasons, you

did not get any cooperation for all the effort and now

you are going to have to QTIP.  When all else fails you

sometimes have to stop feeling bad.  You did the best

you could to be supportive, now it is time to QTIP,   smile



-- Edited by Debb on Sunday 23rd of August 2015 04:37:02 PM

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((Mary)) I discovered that if I learned the lesson from each situation that I found myself in , I was enriched, regardless of how others reacted to me.
I hear you validating your decision and accepting that there is more to learn. Keep on showing up and using program tools . You are doing fine.

Remember Debbs post to, QTIP , well as stay in my" own hula hoop ".  They are powerful tools.



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Jerry F


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I agree with Betty (of course she's smart) because I do what you have just done and what she suggests.   Keep on keeping on and letting us know how it comes out.  ((((hugs)))) wink



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mjferg


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Things are calming down,I am not reacting to anyone's manipulation.My house is more peaceful and even my daughter seems happier.I know as long as I stick to this program everything will be okay.

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Mary
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Great Mary Keep taking care of yourself . Continued positive thoughts and prayers.

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