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missmeliss


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Assets are really hard to do. I was really surprised when I caught up with my old AA buddy recently and we were "talking program" and he told me he just doesn't do assets. After 30+ years, really? He finds it too uncomfortable. Gratitude is easy; assets are really hard.

But I still do them; it's pivotal to me. Every-single-day.

If I can't think of 3 things to like about myself each day, I think I am in quite a bit of trouble.

So, today, I see that I am very good at inspiring people to think "outside the box".

I see that I am quite dedicated to improving myself. I work hard at it.

And I see that I am a very gentle person. And that is a strength, not a weakness.

Anyone else? What do you like about you today? 

 

 



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I so agree Miss..its very important.

Today I like that I am 69 years old and can still get A's on my tests at school..

I love that I have life experience and overcame a lot of adversity and able to share a little wisdom Ive acquired.

and with all that, I would never change a thing, I love that I can smile and have no regrets...

Thank you Miss for this topic. I hope all is well with you and your daughter.

Hugs, Bettina


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We are very well Bettina, and it's awesome to hear from you

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Assets are hard Ms. M. I believe they were difficult for me because I always focused my attention outward on others, praised their abilities and made myself invisible. 
From childhood I was instructed to be humble, do not brag about yourself because pride is a deadly sin, do for others , praise them and they in turn will care for you.-- Not so.

Recognizing my assets each day is extremely important to restoring my self esteem and self worth.
Love your assets today They are so very true.

Mine are: I am dedicated to recovery and spiritual growth, and my deep faith in HP. 



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Missmeliss (and all) -

What a great topic and a pleasant surprise to start the day!

I am committed to my growth in recovery and spirituality.

I am loyal and helpful.

I am kind and loving.

I view the second two as a direct result of the first.

Thanks to all - great ESH so far!

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Good one MM. It's very difficult for me as a result of my upbringing. Recognizing my assets was considered boastful and I was always immediately taken down very hard for it. It doesn't come naturally to me at all, and I think I recognize them, but I keep them to myself.

I have a fertile mind,
A caring heart,
A quick wit,
Just enough skin,
One good eye,
And I can boil almost anything.

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Assets are easier for me to see when I try to see myself through my HP's eyes, as a parent, lovingly gazing at their precious child I can see my heart and my willingness to share it with anyone who needs it, I can see my devilish grin; through my eyes I can see the wheels working in my brain as I try to figure something out; I strive not to cause anyone pain just because I can but if you're my friend and you leave yourself open, I might give you a zinger - you did leave yourself open, and, if your my friend it means you can handle the zing! I am creative given enough free time, sometimes inventive and I love music and playing my piano. I don't sing well but I sing often because my HP loves music too!

I can't boil dirt though.

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Thanks for the Topic Ms. M :)

I too Very Much Struggle with this one, And again as a result of my Alcoholic upbringing which let me hidden and ashamed of who & what I was ... I Do try to Remind myself I have some Very Loving Assets and that is what I try to Focus on Now Daily...

I Love Deeply, I Love My Love for Nature & the little Pings God Allows me to See while I'm In it, And I'm Pretty Happy that I Allow Myself the Freedom to be in a Program that Makes me want to be a Better Person DAILY... Each day is a Fresh New Day, I Do My Best to Embrace, at the Very Moment My Feet hit the Floor to Bring Light to a New Day :)

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Thanks for this, Ms. Meliss!

I haven't heard of doing assets before, and I am going to add it to my morning meditations.

I am a compassionate, dedicated leader.

I am a very determined person.

I am able to learn new skills and figure things out when faced with an obstacle.

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Why is it so much easier to list my flaws then my assets? I am thinking and thinking and thinking and all I can come up with are such superficial things that I would feel like a 12 year old if I listed them. I may need to back up and recite what I am grateful for.
I am grateful for:
My home, my job and my family. I guess this stems from a loyalty and determination to stick to it.
My HP who I love and trust. I guess this means I have a desire to grow spiritually.
My Alanon Group. I guess this is a benefit of being brave enough to open up to strangers and allow them to become friends. I do make friends easily.

Whew, asset listing should be easier than that...maybe I need more practice.

Thanks for sharing and making me stretch myself today!

Bethany


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Good share Bethany. I have the same trouble, and I like how you connected the 2. Some of the things I'm grateful for are the result of my assets, but I'm slow to give myself credit sometimes. I'm going to see if I can play connect the dots a little when I do my gratitude lists and identify some assets.

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I am a hard worker
I am faithful
I do the best i can
I have a big heart
I keep all the balls in the air

I try to be a good daughter not easy
I try to let go, let God
I try to heal and to do better emotionally
I try to really do Gods will not mine
I try to be a better person


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Thanks for sharing, missmeliss! Like Skorpi, I didn't know what
assets were until today, either.

Mark

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Hello all! Long time since I have been on here...

Love asset lists and yes can be so very hard~ for me:

I am courageous, I look for ways I can change.
I can show compassion today, while not taking on the task
I am positive today, it makes me feel so much better than only seeing negative and being a Nelly!

Thank you for the topic!

Kat

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I am compassionate, staying on my side of the street, a better listener and loving.

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missmeliss


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Thanks everyone for joining in! I've been awol for a few days and it was really nice to log on and read these today.

Today it occurs to me that I'm good at dusting myself off and getting back on the horse after a fall. Or finding a different horse. Or if I can't find a horse, perhaps jumping on to a particularly swift looking cow and making the most of it, lol
I am resilient, adaptable and resourceful in other words.

I'm also very grateful for, and pleased to report that daughter has come home with a glowing school report today and has renewed enthusiasm for her school and class. In fact she spent some time counselling a friend this evening who had not received good grades, encouraging her to "not give up" and "focus on her strengths, not her weaknesses". I fancy I taught her some of that too

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