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angelainaz


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Hello,

 

I have been to so many meetings and nobody sponsors. It's really hard. I have already worked the 12 steps the past year with a former Sponsor. I just need someone to email or talk to on phone for about 15 minutes a week to vent or get a perspective. My friends don't have experience in this field so they aren't giving me the feedback I need. I am also a good listener if anyone needs to talk. 415-960-8010 angelainaz@hotmail.com

thank you for having this wonderful forum. Everyone have a great day!



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Angela T
Mirandac


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Welcome angela. Why dont you post on here and let
People get to know you. This question has come up
Before, people are told you find sponsor at ftf mtgs.

Let people on here get to know you then after that
you can private message someone with a problem.
I know i have done that to get private help with an
issue or maybe you and someone else will connect
Up and be willing to help each other.

We all know each other from posting our ongoing
Life or recovery issues. This forum has helped me
Grow in leaps and bounds but i have grown enough
Now to give it back.

I still go to my ftf mtgs faithfully. Meet with my
Sponsor or others afterward. It took me long time
To fit in or feel like i did. My home group is great
For sharing esh but was not real warm and cozy.
I was not there to make new friends and i did not
think It was me. They were people i did not know
And they had their own friends and agendas.







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angelainaz


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Hi Miranda

 

Thank you so kindly for your response. That was so thoughtful of you!

I am having a hard time with my conscience. Since I was a teen my mom has been codependent on me. I didn't realize how jealous she gets. It got to the point, she said she would slit her throat if I dated a man who is 15 years older, I am 45. He is a nice man. He finally stopped dating me because I put my mom first. I understood why he did and we are still close friends. However, it got to the point, I couldn't even text a friend while she was in the next room. She said I was rude. I made a point to come see her for 3 days/3 nights, so a quick text while she is in the next room is really not a big deal. Anyways, when I'd call her everyday, she'd go on how lonely she is and how my friends should understand that she needs me more. She also wouldn't see me if it was only for 5 hours because I had to work the next day. I tried so hard, but no matter how hard I tried, it was never enough. So I did moved an hour away in with the man she doesn't like. I am enjoying life now. I don't miss her. I will always love her. But I told her if you want to be in my life, please go to counseling with or without me and try to enjoy life and have gratitude instead of being so negative. I needed 30 days away from her 'detaching with love' but it kind of blew up in my face. Now I lost her. It's been 7 weeks!! I could check in on her, but then I would be going back to the unhealthy relationship we had. I put up a boundary and she should honor it and try to get help, not just for me, but for her. But she won't. And I should just accept it, but I can't anymore. I can't take the insults, the jealousy and the negative talk. I can be in a great mood until I'm around her. She was a nice mother growing up, but now she's unpleasant to be around. I couldn't afford a therapist and I got a student but he couldn't advise me. My question is (sorry for this long rant LOL) Am I a bad daughter for not reaching out to my mom? She drinks, but I don't think that's the issue. It's her attitude.... thank you! God bless!

 

 



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Skorpi


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Hi Angela,
I sent you a private message - you should be able to view it on your profile page. I think if you click your username in this thread, that should take you there.

(((HUGS)))


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If you are depressed, you are living in the past. If you are anxious, you are living in the future. If you are at peace, you are living in the present. - Lao Tzu
hotrod


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Dear Angela You are not alone and can find the support and the understanding that you need in order to relearn how to care for yourself and your life. On line meetings here are very helpful as is posting to the Board.


Always remember that you are a loving , considerate daughter who deserve to have a life. Alcoholism is a progressive disease that attempts to hold family members prisoners. Alanon offers the tools to freedom. I am happy that you took care of yourself and detached with love from MOM.

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THE HIGHEST FORM OF WISDOM IS KINDNESS

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angelainaz


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You are an Angel and have the beautiful face of an Angel! Thank you for your kind words, hope and inspiration! It's great to be on here! Have a lovely evening! THANK YOU!!!



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