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This is all new to me. My mother has been an alcoholic for my whole life, I'm 36 now. She hasn't met my children who are three and five. I've always thought I could outrun her issues but it's really been bothering me lately. I'm beginning to think that her actions are affecting my life. Will alanon help me? I plan on going to a meeting but I also think this format will help me. I just don't want to go if this isn't what alanon is for. I drink, to a lot but I do. I think I'll stop for a while until I gain a deeper insight into my mom. Even though she isn't in myh life now, she really messed me up growing up and my relationships are suffering. I have a lot of shame attached to some decisions I've made (drunk and sober). Does this resonate with anyone? I feel pretty alone.
You are not alone and AlAnon is a place for support. Something you will hear over and over is alcoholism is a "family" disease. Short definition of that means that an alcoholic affects everyone close to them. If you grew up in an alcoholic home you are probably carrying the scars of that life, even though your mother isn't currently in your life that past history still is affecting you.
One thing AlAnon will do is teach you to focus on yourself, to learn to accept and detach, the reality is you have no ownership in the alcoholic or their actions. AlAnon lets you talk thru your emotions, it lets you be comforted by others who have dealt with the same scenarios and emotions, you gain insight listening to others stories. Meetings are a great place to see that you are not alone.
I am from an alcoholic home, I myself had a drinking problem at a young age, even though I haven't drank in 32 years alcohol affects my life nearly every day. It sucks and I hate it, so no Kathleen, you are not alone.
attend as many face to face alanon meetings as you can. It breaks the isolation caused
by the disease. You will learn self love, self care and self acceptance. Keep showing
up for you. There are many of us here and in ftf that have travelled your path growing up.
Also there is AA if you feel you need that kind of support.
Hello Kathleen, welcome to Miracles in Progress. Thank you for your honesty and genuine concern as to the right actions to take. We who live with the problem of alcoholism or grew up with the problem of alcoholism, develop destructive coping tools, and as a result, are not prepared to live life on life's terms.
Many of us have used alcohol to cope and finally become dependent, and alcoholics and others develop different destructive ways to avoid feelings and distinct ourselves from our inner demons.
Al-Anon AA have been developed to help each of us learn how to live life on life's terms one day at a time , trusting a higher power and breaking the isolation in which alcoholism and the disease flourishes..
You are not alone so please check out Al-Anon meetings where you will find people who understand as so few can. You can also go to open AA meetings so as to hear their recovery.
Please keep coming back here and sharing the journey
