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Hello everyone I hope you all are well and working on getting better. I'm on and off again this emotional ride still even though the alcholic is not currently in my life but the remains of the disease still lives on in me and in my house. My health is not well I been in the hospital off and on due to my stress level my blood pressure been off the charts . My Ex AH has his own place and seams to be living well and has plenty of money he was lucky to had found a job after losing 3 of them due to his recovery . I'm left with many issues to take care of myself and when you had some one that basically lived your life for you and his now gone trying to fend on my own with children is hard . Been looking for work and trying to stay positive but my own mental health keeps me from seeing hope . My head only knows negative things when your groomed your whole life with verbal and emotional neglect abuse and to throw alcholic behavior on top of it , recovery is not that simple for us . im trying to build new friends now reaching out for any kind of social support to keep me going everyday . Trying to find work after being a house wife a full time mom for going on 8 years now the job industry is not so good to me , my work history does not count anymore I'm out of the work field know one will hire me with no exsperance know one wants to take the time to train me I'm 47 . Sure I can go back to school but that's not going to get me a job now I need money to provide for my kids and my house is in forcloser my days are limited here . Have no family to help me no friends because I lost all of them because of my marriage. The nh system is not working for me every place I Tryed the waiting list is long . How can one recovery when left still to pick up the pieces of the remains of the disease that's still lingers in me and in my house . Any help any advise if anyone knows of anyone Thats has a place to rent to help me get on my feet and keep my children I can really use the support and advise and some hope that this will pass soon .
Have you tried womens domestic abuse centers for support groups
And resources? Retraining centers?
I was lucky i was back working before my marriage Totally fell apart.
I work in home health, there generally is a lot of Work in area i live
in maine. I did have to take a course to get Certified and work my
way up the ladder. I do agency (for health insur) and private Care.
It is tough especially since you have children to consider. But where
I live not much work outside of medical and care of elderly.
Hi Wisdiom. This is a difficult road that you are on. I hear so much recovery in this post that I trust the your tools are working for you.
Keep showing up, use your tools, make your meetings , and your asset list nd a new road will open up
I have heard it said :"One door closes and another opens,but it is hell in the hallway". I think riigh now you are in the hallway.
Keep comingb back
(((Wisdom))) stay with us who have the ESH regarding the dis-ease of alcoholism. I know what you're speaking of and remember getting thru it. "Higher Power relationship" "One day at a time (only)" "Easy does it" "It works when you work it so work it cause you're worth it"....meetings, sponsorship, literature, practice, practice, practice and meditate with prayer the "Relax". "keep and open mind" allowed me to not project into the future about what, where, when and why things would come out. My HP and the program became responsible for the outcomes when I did the work. Everything came out and nothing came out the way I thought or planned that it should except the peace of mind and serenity promised in the 2nd step. I will focus my HP your way just for added support. (((((hugs)))))
My health and my career have suffered as well - because ultimately addictions, their excess and ugliness spill out into every part of our lives. I say these two things to myself and my children: " This isn't FOREVER, it's FOR right now" and "you can eat an elephant. you can do it one bite at a time". I know it sounds silly - but breaking life down into manageable pieces has helped a lot. Remembering that if I can survive through life with insanity and an addict partner- I can thrive without them. ODAT friend.....hugs to you.
i would say,dont despair..try church/temple resources, research the internet for all federal and state and local resources. Sometimes it feels like pong pong.. network through friends and check newspapers,even read the business section for new companies that are opening,etc if you have some basic computor skills,try apartment manager or live in options, many offer lowcost or free places to live. Most of all pray and now we are here for you!
