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My af has been drinking nonstop for the last couple weeks. Last week came to a head when I finally called his parents and they took him home with them. Unfortunately, I let him come back home the next day, a decision which I totally regret......as he was drunk when he came back home early in the morning. After a few nights of him getting so drunk he could hardly walk, all of a sudden I come home from work yesterday and his parents were at our house because he told them he was going through detox. Tonight he went to an AA meeting with his dad. He left his drink on the table, and I took a sip because he was being kind of a jerk. It was a Guinness beer. He left a little bit in the bottom of the glass, so he knew that I might see what it was...plus I found the empty can in the recycle bin. Does he want me to catch him and kick him out???
I am staying busy, getting office done work done and going to play some tennis this weekend. I'm so in the dark as to whether I am to pretend I don't notice what he is doing and let him work it out for himself or step in and intervene and try to get him help...
I am beyond pissed and trying to keep myself calm. He will be back in an hour and I have to try to keep my composure. I'm not sure whether to tell his dad, whether to let let him know I know he was drinking, or just keep it to myself and pretend like everything is okay...I am very new to Al-Anon and I am constantly torn with these decisions. Any insight?
Hi Shealah, I can understand your feelings and have experienced very much the same myself.
AA's traditions state: that the only requirement for membership is a desire to stop drinking.
Detoxing from alcohol is a dangerous process. Many taper off by drinking less and less and others go to a hospital. Here they receive the proper medication to help them, detox . We have online meetings here every evening and if it all possible. I suggest you attempt to attend.
The serenity prayer, keeping the focus on myself, keeping busy as you are, reciting the first three steps over and over all helped me get through the rough times.
Remember, alcoholism is a disease over which we are powerless.
I feel for you shealah! Keep digging into alanon
And you will get stronger and more focused on
You. What works for you to take care of yourself.
Alanon is a me program. Its all about healing you
From the disease of alcoholism. Learning self care,
Self love and self acceptance. Handing your will
Over to your HP.
Learn the tools of loving detachment and healthy
Boundaries. Not accepting unacceptable Behaviors
and actions.
