The material presented
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to exchange
information, ideas, feelings, problems and solutions on a personal
level.
I have 4 friends who are drunk and stoned; I have been sober 31 years and 25 years in Alanon; they don't want help or want to stop; It looks like I have to drop these friendships because I just can't tolerate drunk people any more.
I had to move away from people who use and abuse drugs, alcohol or other people. My being in their life wasn't going to change anything except me and not in healthy ways. I move away from active codependents, too, who aren't working on themselves and their issues. Same reason. My being in their life isn't going to change anything except me. I'm much more myself with people who are down to earth, fun to be with, say what they mean, mean what they say and don't have to be using drugs or people to justify killing themselves slowly.
I had to drop a lot of folks b/c of substance abuse or abuse of any kind......if i stay w/these folks, their negative energy can't bring me down...negative is very powerful and i accept that fact.....to be positive and stay positive, I must be around others who are positive, loving, healing, healthy to be around.....
its like hanging out w/someone who has a contageous disease....yea, my emotional immune system may resist for a while, but eventually, I will feel the negative changes in me......
recovery is about self discovery, self love, self care, self acceptance...If i am really loving me..why would i want these psychic vampires in my life??? I can pray for them, empathize with them, but i keep away from them....I move on......JUST saying....keep coming back....
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Live and let live and do it with peace and goodwill to all!!!!
