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feeling some anxiety


I received a text from my daughter-in-law last night,my son left her and is asking for a divorce.They have 2 kids.She is hurting so bad,I really feel for her.I love them both and I told her I will be here for both of them.There aren't any  bad feelings  between us and I know I will be able to see my grandchildren.I haven't talked to my son yet.Still those old feelings have come back,you know the ones where  there is something wrong and I need to fix it.I am not going to try and fix anything,but those feelings have come up almost like I am in  a crises,but I am not,if that makes any sense.I hate when I feel this way.



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I'm sorry your family is going through this difficult time.  You sound like you know where the line is and don't want to step over it. Thank goodness the program shows us how to set boundaries. It's so easy to end up enmeshed in other people's stuff when we love them. I think it's even more difficult when there are children to think about how they'll be affected. 

Everyday we're facing the unknown. No one can predict what hp has in store for our lives and I guess we've learned to accept that and be guided to whatever comes next. 

Those "crisis" feelings you're feeling make sense to me. When there is an emotional tie to other people, getting this sort of news feels much more difficult. The whole family will be affected by this decision including you. Someone (your son) has the power to change his family as you've known it. If experiencing them as a family together has been giving you a lot of joy and you are worried how the decision will impact yourself, your son, daughter in law and the kids, it would seem natural that you're experiencing anxiety. 

I think in these circumstances that are clearly out of our control, all we can do is pray for everyone concerned including ourselves. The Serenity Prayer has helped me during these times of uncertainty and it has calmed me a bit too. Prayers for your family for an outcome that's best for everyone concerned.  (((mjferg)))  TT



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Ditto TT's share and her prayer, too, Mary.

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My relationship with my ex-mother-in-law is one of the strongest friendships I have - she stayed out of our business for the most part, did not take sides against me to me. I'm sure she has her opinions about me but she never lays them on me - which I really value in her. I really respect her for being able to stay out if it and accept it for what it was.

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