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2wks ago,ah went on drinking binge for 4 days. he skipped work and then threw up so much that he had to be hospitalized for dehydration,hbp and vitamin depletion.
he really suffered physically with stomach pains,weakness and tremors. again he made that useless promise that it was so bad,he was going to quit drinking. funny, i was so calm through the whole thing,almost relaxed when he was in the ward for 3 days. i told him that if the binging etc happens again, i will not go with him and watch him suffer.
now, he gets like 12 days off for the holidays and im already anticipating trouble. im trying to use my alanon and my sponser will take me to a meeting whenever i want. is it to much to ask my higher power to help me stay sane and help dh to stay away from booze. i have some projects to work on..so fingers crossed
is it to much to ask my higher power to help me stay sane and help dh to stay away from booze. i have some projects to work on..so fingers crossed
i would do serenity, but skip the asking about him to stay away from booze...that is not your department..yea, i understand and empathize, but alanon is right to teach us to pray for the serenity prayer and let the alcoholic GO!!! if he wants to stay from booze he will, if not, he won't.....just enjoy the holidays, detach from him, have your own fun, open presents, enjoy your family....i would just let him to his own devices , being polite and all, but basically doing my own thing.... i know u want him to stay away from liquor and its a righteous desire, but not reasonable to expect an active A to stay away from booze....its not a realistic prayer....i would focus on me and having FUN!!! let him do what hes gotta do and just detach from it.......and yes....meetings w/sponsor is a GOOD idea....maybe many meets during this time...for me, if i were with an alcoholic, i would be living in the meetings....i didn't want to live like that so i left....thats just me.....i want sanity, sobriety, serenity in my life....not worrying about what some one is gonna do re: drinking.........sorry this all happened....have fun on your holiday and tune him and his stuff out...............glad you have a sponsor........IN SUPPORT
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Live and let live and do it with peace and goodwill to all!!!!
He will drink or not drink. You can ask his HP to help him and then choose to let him do and be whatever he chooses without participating in it. Meanwhile, you can stick to your guns if he is re-admitted to the hospital and increase your meeting times and working with your sponsor. That will help you work on what you can change and let go of what you can't change - him or his alcoholism. Glad you have some projects to work on and a little Al-Anon under your belt.
