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a case of rebellion


Down under festivities start early. I feel completely anti drinking. I don't want to be around alcohol and its fans at all. I dont want my kids around it at all and I feel morally judgemental of all the silly jbarbecues we've been invited to this month. Bring the kids is the tagline...um,NO losers, kids do not need to be running around wild or parked in front of a movie while everyone gets drunk. It pisses me off I guess because I've seen it alot,and after all these years, it still happens.the whole drunken scenario just makes me shudder.i needed to vent that,so I don't voice my inability to attend as horribly as I want to. There was a time I was young free and independent and drank. I never made bones about it. Lets get trashed! No kids, paid my bills, etc. I hate the denial of it,oh look its end of year,lets have a BBQ and pretend its about joyful sharing of company.as if. The last bbq I attended, I made a cheesecake and there was NO FOOD! I left in a half hour to avoid sober driving. This weekend,I'm going to cook heaps of food and stuff my little ones with it. I think their dad will be awol. I dont even care. My babies and I are going to have a lovely and fun time without alcohol inn our vicinity.



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It's not a moral issue AM...not about good and bad, right and wrong.  Its about disease, illness, sickness and its okay to stay as far away from it as you want.  I did the same thing...separated from my family of origin and my wife...all things alcohol and I must have been ready for it cause it was okay and I didn't squirm much.  Food tasted better and we had more fun at non-drinking outings which were all with program family members.  Still having fun.  Do what makes you feel good without feeling like you have to. Its okay to just want to for you.   Happy Thanksgiving...(((((hugs))))) smile



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Here in Italy, where wine is as cheap as water and where I see the old farmers having a small glass of wine in the bar for breakfast I am amazed at how wonderfully sober everyone stays at a party or festival. In seven years I have only seen one person inebriated at an event and I really admire that. So different from the 'lets get smashed and let our hair down' parties that I've been used to in the UK. I have been told about one or two folks here in our italian community who do drink to excess, but this has been mentioned in a non-judgemental, very matter of fact way, in the same way that they also mention that the same person happens to be excellent hunters of mushrooms or grows wonderful veggies. I like that acceptance.

I love Jerry's affirmation 'its okay to just want to for you.' And I love the idea that you've been having a fun lovely time with your babies. Enjoy!

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I don't like being with folks who drink to excess either, aquamom, and it troubles me when kids are in the middle of the behaviors that go on when folks drink to excess.  To me, its like putting little ones in a gorillas' cage and expecting it to come out all right for them.  Disease or not, for those of us who have lived through the horrors of people who are out of their minds, the desire to protect ourselves and our children from the insanity of it all is a healthy desire. 



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Thanks all. Typically I'm now stuck with a dry drunk for the next four days. At one point I've actually had to barricade us in one room. Something ridiculous about an apple. Europe has been ruined for me too milkwood. In nz, every one would bring up the Europeans and their drinking culture. Suddenly everyone's a foodie. I'm jaded. I do have friends who can drink and be lovely as they are sober.I think I have reached a place where alcohol represents so much loss, I truly dont want to be near it.this is progress. As a younger person I drank heavily and frequently,quitting only when I had to and only after promising myself id get stable enough to spend the rest of my life drinking with no one to tell me what to do.i think I can let that go now.

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