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feel like I am going down...


I have not been able to recover from a meeting I went to on Weds. I know that it was several days ago but I haven't been able to post on here how I feel. It is very hard to post on my smart phone even though I like it. So, a few times a week on get on this library computer.

Anyhow, I had put too much pressure on myself that day because a few members were going to attend our small meeting. I was very anxious. The lady who runs the meeting was late so I had to run it. Not that I don't want to run meetings, it was just up to me to carry the load. I did OK but left the meeting feeling very put out. I didn't even get to say Goodbye to the ladies that showed up. I even felt very insignificant. I have been going to F2F meetings for many years & haven't felt that awful when I left.

Anyhow, my other issue, that probably won't be resolved for awhile, is this: my mom will be returning from the hospital soon. I am not ready for her to come here. This is no longer her home. But, I don't mind her coming here. What I am saying is that there are a lot of unresolved issues that me & my family still have to face. One thing that is really pressing is that she had a van that she bought impulsively. We had to take it back to the dealership w/o any refund on the van. The thing is I made the final decision to take the van back but I can't even drive it myself. So, I put it on a sort-of friend of my mom's. Now here is the main dilemma: she is going to freak out when she finds out that she no longer has the van! So, I am waiting for the shoe to drop. I don't know what my mom is capable of doing at this point. Now I just have to live one day at a time. I know that I can't do anything right now except wait. I just want the issue to be resolved. And, I am not sure if the car dealer will give her her money back. We tried to get the money back to no avail. The guy who sold it to her knew she was mentally unstable but sold it to her anyway. He has sold her cars before.

What do I do?

Kathleen



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Hi Kathleen, I'm sorry your f2f meeting did not go like you wanted. Maybe the next one will be twice what you expect, so as to make up for this one.

As for the van, seems to me that if you can prove your mom is mentally unstable and this dealer knew it, he would have to refund her money. I lawyer should be able to give you advice on this.  It sounds as though you have already figured out the answer to your dilemma. You said it with the slogan, "take one day at a time."

I'm sorry I don't have any other answers, but please know I'm praying things will turn out with a positive outcome with your mom and the van.

(( Hugs to you Kathleen )) 



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Hi Kathleen Prayers my dear friend. If your mom paid for the Van, and the dealership has taken it back then they owe her money. I would explain to your mother, that while she was in hospital the Van was returned to dealership, and you would be willing to go with her to negotiate the next step.

Congratulations on being able to step up and chair the meeting that was by no means insignificant


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